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writes: Can anyone please give me some tips on mending a broken heart?Has anyone had a relationship where there was mutual love, only for one party to break it off, due to cultural and family pressures?I know my boyfriend (or ex-boyfriend) loves me to bits. But he has decided to end our relationship due to the fact that he has had to move back to his family in Europe (a small village, where he is from), due to suddenly becoming ill. It's just a sad story, really. He has to spend a long time at home recovering....and because of our cultural differences, I know I won't be accepted by his family (I'm British-Asian).Has anyone had to go through anything similar? I don't know how to get over him, when I know he still loves me...we are still in touch. I'm trying to be friends with him, as I do care for him and he is going through difficult times with his illness - it just hurts every time I think of him.All I can do is cry every time I think about him. Right now I cannot control my emotions.He is visiting the UK next month, and will visit me - I want to try and keep a friendship between us in the hope that we will one day be together.However, at the same time, I know I need to try and move on from him....Can anyone give me advice or cheer me up?Thanks,Miss Tearful xxx
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reader, Hollow +, writes (18 September 2006):
I don't know if I can give you any advice, or, even cheer you up - but, you have my complete sympathy, as I'm going throug the same thing myself, though, of course, for slightly different reasons. In fact, you might even be able to help me - because my girlfriend is Asian and it's because her family insist she must stop seeing me(I'm white British) that we are having to split - and I'm devastated. I really couldn't describe the way I feel any better than you have - I just don't know how I'm supposed to get over her when I know she loves me!
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reader, Suzanna +, writes (14 September 2006):
 There are no quick fixes for this situation. I you both really love each other then neither of you are ready to move on, so why force it when you are not ready to do so?
Why not invest in your friendship, because he means a lot to you (and you to him). You could sign up to an instant messaging account and comminicate regularly. Only time will tell where your relationship will be heading. Who knows... Don't give this up and try not predict the future... XxX
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2006): As Pon has said, time and distance. If you want to be cheered up... Hmmmmm.... Hmmm.... [ponders] Hmmmm.... Well umm, yeah. I suck at jokes, and am already trying to soothe 3 of my female friends' broken hearts. [sigh] Talk about non-stop MSN-action! [sighs and cries] What's worse is when I have all three of them talking to me at once, and sometimes getting mixed up in the convo, and since they're going through a sensitive period, a little mistake can usually spark something negative on their end - eg: "All men are the same! Always forgetting, and blah blah blah"...
Then I stay quiet for say 30 minutes of non-stop typing and they finally apologize to me... Women... Can't live with them... And can't live without... Hmmm... No I can definitely live without them. [wink]
I'll just keep myself company doing stuff and things... 8/
If u want to talk, PM me and we can set up a Chat session. If you have a problem about me being some sort of serial rapist, freak, stalker, 90 year old lonely old man, you might be able to get some reassurance from the other aunts and uncles that I am who i am...
Blah. This isn't working on cheering u up is it? [sigh] No alcohol! No drugs! No driving with alcohol and drugs! Just sleep and do other things like stuff...
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reader, Ponungalungb  +, writes (14 September 2006):
 There's no easy remedy for a broken heart. As the Wizard of Oz told the Tin Man, "Hearts will never be practical, until they can be made unbreakable."
Time and distance are the two best cures. Keep your distance and let time heal your wounds.
As you say, maybe some day you can get back together, but as long as it's not possible now, you're better off keeping your distance. Friendships, more often then not, only serve to keep the emotions exposed, so it's hard to be a friend right away. In time, a friendship may develop, but to go from lovers to friends overnight is next to impossible . . . I've been down that road.
Good luck!
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