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writes: Hi,I broke up with this one guy i was and still am madly in love in May. The thing is, I was hoping he would come and ask me to cool down or don't make decision while I was mad. But he never did. After a week or so, I endded asking him to come back. He doesn't want it.Here is the thing. I ask for a breakup because I have a strong feelings that he is not interested in me anymore. He often late to the dates. He often ignore my feelings. He was so distant. After the breakup, he mentioned that he did all that because we always argued. I mean, couple argue all the time. Not everyday or every hour, but couples do argue right. My argument with him was that, after all the things that I have committed and sacrificed to him, I was hoping he would at least make some quality time for me. I could only see him late at night after his work. And all we were take shower and sleep. Due to him coming to my place at 3am (we live separately, therefore I have to stay awake and wait for him), I sometimes got really late to work. I feel so sad that he doesn't want me. I feel so sad that he willing to let me go so that he doesnt have to give me the quality time that I have asked for so long. He even realize what he was doing to me (ignore and being distant to me) and yet he is making me feel like all was my fault. It feels so painful and I don't know what to do. My friends are clueless. Many of them tried to say courageous word or comforting and all, but I still feel pain and heart broken and so bloody damn sad.I did everything in the book, keep busy, hangout with people, enjoy single life. But the pain is still there. My question is, how to make this pain and heart break to go away?PS: Besides the bad things I said about him, I still remember the good stuff, including his good behavior where he still kinda respect my wishes. I guess this is one of the things that is making me miss him so much.
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reader, amandanash  +, writes (6 July 2010):
My boyfriend just broke up with me because of silly reasons, and because he said he wasn't 100% into the realtionship and wasn't crazy about me. It hurts so much to hear! I'm going through a lot of pain about it too and am having lots of trouble getting over it, but so many people have said that it does get better. Just wait it out and enjoy the time you have to yourself. your ex treated you terribly! do you really want that back in your life? you want to be with someone who cares about you all the time, not just some times.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2010): Babe..it's time to move on because, based on what you wrote, it doesn't seem like your ex was all that into you from the beginning....maybe he wanted you to break up with him so that he wouldn't have too. I have found that when a person loves you or if they are into you..they show in on a constant basis for the most part.
He maybe be "respecting" your wishes, because the breakup was probably his "wish" too.
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