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writes:Guys i need your help!! I've been seeing this guy now for about 2 months and at the start we only really got together when we were drunk. But then after a few weeks sober he started to introduce me as his girlfriend which was nice because i did quite like like him. We never had a problem having sex while drunk as i know that your full of confidence and that but when this guy was sober he would be quite shy, and at the start i thought maybe he had went off me because he never made the first move it was always me until he started doing it himself.But now lately within the 2 or 3 weeks he's went back to being quite shy again and when I'm with him all we do is just sit snuggled up watching dvds, when really i want him to be ripping my clothes off me! My friend who introduced us said that he's never really been interested in girls until he met me, and hes 28! I'm 22 and don't really want to seem like a total nympho, pouncing on him every time that i see him.. so how, without actually coming out and saying it to him, (which i know he'll get embarrassed about!) do i make him want to make the first move on me??I'm starting to feel like there's something wrong with me, other than this problem there are no flaws at all in this relationship, if i didn't like him as a person so much then i would've been gone by now!! Please help!!
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reader, Kenj +, writes (4 March 2010):
 It sounds like you are still going through the lust and infactuation stage, I think everyone has it where it hurts to be apart from each other for more than half a day.
Contrary to belief though, not all us guys want to jump into bed with anything with a pulse. Sex is a nice part to a relationship, but it shouldnt dominate it. Trust, communication, affection, thoughfulness are just a few other things that help - a lot!
Building relationships takes time, it does sound like hes not communicating very well with you which could be he is shy or doesnt know what to say to you. Do you try and start a conversation with him? does he try and engage back?
There are hundreds of things to talk about, you dont have to be talking every second, quiet time is nice to have, but too much quiet is not good.
So I would suggest start talking more, suggest to go out somewhere, even if just for a walk.
He could have issues from previous relationships, tell him how feel about him, see if he responds positive. If he sits in silence then hes problbly not in to you.
Hope it works out.
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