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writes: I posted a question recently about my boyfriend going travelling overseas and breaking up with me when I had planned to join him later on, saying he wants to be single. I was very shocked and upset, but I thought, why should this stop me from travelling to the UK, when it was something I had really wanted to do. I told my ex this in an email, and he said that it was good and that he would like to stay in touch and see me when I arrived. I know to a lot of people it may seem stupid to keep in contact with him after what he did, but the thing is we had a great relationship before he left- he was the nicest guy, treated me very well, and was 100% faithful to me. I think he may have commitment issues. Since he broke up with me, I've been a lot better than I would've expected-I still go out, have a good time, and I'm looking forward to going away for myself without the expectations of being in a relationship there, and I am also open to seeing other guys (though I am happy to be single for now). However, I still love my ex and therefore have hopes of a reconciliation when I see him again. I don't see how if he missed me, and it was so upsetting for him to break up with me, then he wouldn't look forward to seeing me again and still have feelings for me. I know that soon he will be settling down more in one place, as so far it's been basically just partying for him,so I think he could change his mind about us.Sorry this has been so long, but I just want advice on whether you think I'm making it too easy for him- like maybe he wants his break from me while he goes out and has fun, and then wants to see me again because maybe he would want a relationship by then? I'm so confused- I don't know if I should have expectations for a relationship, and I don't know if it's even a good idea to see him. Also, I really do want to be with me again, but how can I make him see that I'm not going to be on the backburner for him, waiting around for him this whole time?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2006): Travelling is something i think everyone should do, especially to the UK as its top here! (sorry i'm English) Let him do his thing, but meet up with him by all means, I know he may have hurt you but think about it, you in a new place and i have to say english lads do have a thing for people from a different place, being around english people all the time is boring! So if you ex see's you with new people he may think twice, go enjoy travelling, you'll love it!
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reader, Lo$t +, writes (26 July 2006):
 dear reader,
Have you looked at things from his perspective? Perhaps he loved you more than you imagined? and he sacrificed his love because it is not fair for lovers to be apart! and didnt want you to hold on, he deemed your happiness more important . On the other hand, I dont know how young you guys are and whether you guys are ready for commitment, perhaps he wants to live life, before commiting.
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