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36-40,
anonymous
writes:hi everyone so this is my problem me and this man have been having sex for the past 4 months we have just started sending each other dirty pictures and texts we get on really well even though he is 10 years older than me. he has never slept with anyone else while we have been having sex this past 4 month and neither have i. i really like him he calls me names like sexy bum and babe and baby etc but he wont enter into a relationship with me. i think it would be really good he is scared of getting hurt again i think. how do i make him see im diffrent to the others that have hurt him and that i actually genuinely like him and not just for sex thank you
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (22 July 2011):
 Every one is scared of entering a relationship whether they had been hurt badly or not. I am not sure if this is really a valid reason or just an excuse. I would not do or say anything to convince him. To do so is to make him think you are more interested in him than he is in you. He doesn't want one, then you don't want one with him. Simple. If he wants you enough then he would pursue you. By convincing him you are pursuing him and he will feel pressued. You can never tell what the future is. People can say whatever they want and contradict themselves later. He also has the capacity to hurt you just as bad, but he doesn't need to convince you right now. The relationship is new you should just let it unfold. It's better to not say anything. The first few months should be light hearted and fun.
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reader, RebbieHoneybee  +, writes (22 July 2011):
Hi there!
Well im not an expert, and as you can see from my age, im quite young! BUT i do have experience with boys and men, i have been lied to more than an adult and ive gone through things that i wasnt meant to go through. I am quite experienced. I think that the only way you can show him he can trust you is be never ever letting him down, never lying to him, and ALWAYS telling the truth. Even if its about a cup of coffee...the smallest thing can make him lose his confidence in you.
The only thing that can make him trust you is by being reasonable, so try to ALWAYS be there for him, show him you like him and make it CLEAR that you are and will alway be a trust-worthy person.
I know all of this, because im exactly the same as your bf, im scared of everything and everyone, and i find it really difficult to trust people, even myself.
Do as i say and you'll live :)
Good luck! xx
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