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writes:I recently moved to a new school and I am already having problems trying to make new friends. There is one girl who is one of the most popular girls and I have someone rubbed her the wrong way and I guess she doesnt like me. The other day I was chatting with a group of the girls. I went back to the locker because I had left my book and over heard them talking about me.She told me that I'm a freak and crazy and that they should stay away from me. Another girl who I thought was a closer friend said nothing in my defense. In fact she joined in and said I seem weird to her too. I can't think of anything I've done or said to these girls for them to treat me this way. I just want to fit in and make some friends Reply to this Question
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reader, Purpleglitter  +, writes (9 February 2012):
Well first off, you never want to make friends with the really popular girls. They're only popular cos they're generally horrible, and will only expect you to be the same.
In all honesty, there is no set way to "make friends", im 16 and i recently made a new friend who iv been in school with for years, and it was because we shared the same taste in music and we overheard the other talking about it and we just clicked! And no doubt the same will happen for you.
So just be yourself, keep you're chin up and you'll attract the people you would actually want to make friends with :)
Good luck hunny
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reader, IHateWomanBeaters +, writes (9 February 2012):
 The idea is not to give a f**k. That is what I did toward the end of high school, and as soon as I started to defend myself and be who I wanted to be to impress myself and those that were impresed by me, as opposed to someone fake, I made friends. The ahrder you try and make something work, the worse off you are going to be. If you have to make a relationship work, vs let it run its natural course it will mess up and you will hold resentment toward your partner. Same thing with a friendship. If you are trying to make your friendship work, but they stab you in the back in stead of stand up for you and defned you, you will not like them and you will feel bad about yourself. friends are there to help you grow up and help you along in life, and for you to receive help from them. With that said, you problem is that you try and appease people, thinking that that is the source of your happiness. Sorry, that is not. The source of your happiness is to be happy on your own. The way to make friends is to put who YOU are out there, not the other way around. If you put yourself out there, and be yourself while you are putting yourself out there, people will notice you. when people notice you, they will decide A, I like her, or B I don't like her. If they don't like you, who cares? THere is nothing that you can do to get them to like you. Focus on the people that like you normally, without you having to work for it, etc. Be yourself, put yourself out there, and talk to a lot of people. You will find friends :)
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