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41-50,
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writes:Guy SituationThere is a guy who I really like and we have been getting close (we are not dating) but we are both physically attracted to each other, and we both want to sleep with each other, he is very experienced and I am not, I am self conscious about how I look and the last time I got close to someone they weren't very complimentary and it has knocked my confidence. How can I tell this guy that I do like him but I don't think I can have sex with him because I don't feel good enough/ready, he isn't into dating and has made this clear but I really do like him and see this as a way to gain confidence. I said I wasn't ready a few months ago and he sad we could do other stuff when we meet up, again due to confidence all we have done is kiss and I have gven him a hand job. We have been kissing and getting close for about a year but it's only once/twice a month.I want him to know that I might have sex with him evetually but at the moment I can't because of me. When I said this before he just said that he thinks I am gorgeous and he likes what we are doing and it doesn't bother him that I have never been with someone before.Any advice how I can get it across that I am not as confident with my body as he is and that is a problem for me.Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2010): You'll just have to trust that he was being honest when he said you are gorgeous. Contrary to what you may think, most men don't expect their women to be flawless. Sounds like you need confidence but you also just need to trust him. And if he acts like the other guy you mentioned, he's not worth your time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2010): Hi, I would like to say that I am also self conscious with the way I look. So if you were to really do something with him, I suggest you turn off the lights, It might sound bad..but it could be romantic! haha. But thats what I do, I usually have the Computer screen on or TV.. You know, just make it a little dim. When you guys are in that kind of situation, your body image will be the last thing on his mind. And when you finally pass that.. You will feel much better.
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