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writes:Okay so I have been talking to a guy that I known for a long time. He is 20 and I'm 17 and he's in college and I'm in high school but starting college as well. I can honestly say I have fallen for him he is like everything I want. But there is one problem I havr never had a boyfriend in my entire whole life. How do I know if I'm ready for a serious relationship?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2012): Well we all have to start somewhere! It doesn't have to be serious to start with. People get serious when they've been seeing each other for a while and start to develop deeper feelings.
You don't say whether this guy has asked you out or whether you have an indication that he is interested in you. Did you check he isn't already seeing someone? It's easy to get carried away when we like someone. So check all this out first and then if he does want to date you, just take things little by little, at a pace you are both comfortable with.
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reader, bruce lee  +, writes (4 February 2012):
 The question you have to ask yourself is...Is he trying to rush me into this relationship?
If he really cares about you, he will not rush you. He will let things unfold at their natural pace.
I'm a guy. And I hate it when women try to rush me into things. I really believe that love should not be rushed. Yes, there is passion. But there has to be an element of respect.
And be careful going out with someone older than you because they might manipulate you in some way. They have more knowledge and know all the dirty tricks that happen with relationships. Bla bla bla. I hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2012): I've been in a very similar situation you're in. He was 3-4 years older than me and I was just going into college, I hadnt had a boyfriend before and didnt know if going out with him was the best thing to do, but i went for it because i thought he was everything i wanted, we dated for 8 months until i found out he had cheated on me for 5 of those months with his ex.
The key to a relationship is trust, do you trust him? We always have something more to learn from every relationship we have, and you’ll learn it by yourself and with him.
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reader, AbigailBradbury  +, writes (3 February 2012):
 you will just know. It's not about the guy and the relationship it's about you in yourself. You need to be ready to be with someone. If you're so used to being single and are an independant person, being in arelationship takes alot of hard work. it isn't always laughing and romance, its arguing and being willing to talk. COMMUNICATION, is key. if you don't have that, or trust, there's no point. Make sure you're confident enough in yourself and ready to give yourself to someone else. x
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