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writes:I don't know how best to explain this, but I'll do my best...I have this acquaintance/friend that I've known for quite some time now (about three years) and he's known to all of his friends and the entire high school we graduated from as the "Funny Fat Guy". Only recently did I learn of his severe lack of self-esteem. He thinks if he loses the tremendous amount of weight he has (he's 5'10" and 370 lbs), nobody will like him anymore. But that's so not true! He'll always be the "Funny Guy" instead of the "Funny Fat Guy" if he just lost the weight that could potentially kill him! And when he can't get enough food, he resorts to cutting himself and although I'm not that personally close to him, it's still hard to know that I know someone who does that themself and I can't do all that much about it. I just want to know how I could possibly help him to know that people will like him, will still respect him, will still think he's as hilarious as the next comedian, and just try to be his friend. Truth be told, I actually kind of care about the guy; I just don't want to see him waste away his life by eating mountains of food each day so people will think he's this great guy, when in fact, he's a great guy no matter what he does.Please help. Thanks. =] Reply to this Question
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (3 January 2009):
If he's cutting himself when he can't get food then this is about FAR more than low self esteem. He has SERIOUS issues with food, and you need to get him to seek professional help. You want to help him but you have to accept that you can only go so far on this.
Think of it the same way as any other illness (because this is illness, he's not right and it could simply be a hormonal or chemical imbalance)... if he had Leukaemia you would still want to look after him but you would let professionals take over because you don't have a chemotherapy kit. This is the same thing. Get him to people who can help him.
Good Luck!! xx
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