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writes:Sorry this might be a little long, but I need help relieving my girlfriend's stress. My girlfriend and I have been dating for about a year and we live together. My girlfriend is and I are both in college and have jobs but she is doing way too much, well at least I think. My girlfriend leaves our house at 7:00 am to go to classes, comes home for lunch for 30 min. then goes to work. She doesnt come home until like 10:00 or 10:30 every night and sometimes on weekends she works every hour all weekend. All of her work and school has her so stressed out. When we first met, she was a very happy go lucky person. Now she is very down and every night when she comes home, she sits on my lap and cries, for a long time, while she tells me about her day. Finally the school quarter ended and we got her grades in the mail yesterday. After she opened the grades, she would not let me see them (i like to see her grades only because im paying 3/4 of her tuition) and when I finally did see them she felt so bad about them she vomited. She had all fail's, she has never failed a class in her life. I don't know what Im going to do. She is so stressed out she is becoming physically and emotionally sick. I love her so much and am deeply worried. I want her to leave her job, but she wants to be able to help pay tuition (even though i can cover it). I'm all out of options and need help bad. How do I help her become herself again?How do I help her to relieve her stress? It hurts me to see her like this and I need to know how to handle this. Reply to this Question
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reader, bride2b +, writes (1 September 2009):
i think that she needs to work less hours. it seems to me that she is just over-working herself which is causing her to get bad grades. grades are important and her schooling is what is going to make her the money in the future. so i would suggest her to just work part-time so that she can concentrate more on her schooling. u said she is doesn't want to quit her job because she wants to help pay her tuition. she doesn't have to completely quit her job. if she agrees with working less, split her check into 3 funds: tuition, bills, and money for herself. that way she is still contributing without all the stress of working so much. hope this helps! i have had to quit a job before because it was causing me migraines because it was interfering with school. my doctr had told me i should quit and find something less stressful. so i quit my full-time job and was hired through another company part-time 3 months later. my migraines went away and i did better in school! :) sometime you just have to take that step.
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