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writes:Hey,my friend is currently panicking over her abusive ex bf.I don't know why she still gets messages from him or hasn't blocked him in his msn mail,but anyway when I try to help her online(we're internet friends) by trying to listen to her,she just tells me to go away.These episodes happend occasionally,but I don't want her to suffer anymore.Any ideas,please?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAw,man...I think you may have a point here,that this might be emotionally draining.However,in September I am going to college to learn to be a social workers,so I might some day acquire the skills to help her.Also,I don't think running away is a good option,because I have heard of girls who ran away and eventually became like prostitutes or something along those lines,since they have no emotional or financial support.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2008): Unfortnately, it is impossible to help people who does not want to be helped. I think you must type her one last letter, expressing all of your concerns. Tell her that she has options:
-she can go to the police
-she can get professional help
-she can run away
The help is out there, it is up to her to go out and ask for it. Tell her that you will not bother her again, even though you care about her. Wish her best of luck and move on with your life.
This kind of thing is extremely emotionally draining, and since you are not an expert, you do not possess the necessary skills and knowledge to handle this in a way that does not have a negative impact on your emotional well being.
Breaking free is in your best interest. you owe itto yourself. Don't worry too much about her, if she wants to get better she will do something about it.
Good luck!
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