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writes:I am a babysitter of three kids. Ages 6, 8, and 10. The 6 and 10 year olds are boys and the 8 year old is a girl. Now I'm a male and it seems this girl has a bit of a crush. How do I handle it? She undresses knowing i'm around and even goes skinny dipping when I am in or near the pool. What do I do??
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to those who have given advice. For the one who said wh trust a man around my kids. F*** you. I'm not a frigin pedophile I am just good with kids. I have talked to the parents about the situation an they said they have no problem with their children skinnydipping around me. But it still makes me a tad uncomfortable. WHAT DO I DO???
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reader, Mr Raindog +, writes (15 August 2007):
 Tell her parents if you haven't done so already. Little girls get little girl crushes all the time and the behavior is not unusual. Remember that children don't always have a fixated concept of modesty as adults do and what's she's doing can be perceived as trying to show off. It's also possible that she doesn't have a crush on you at all and just likes being naked.
I'm the eldest of seven and the fourth sibling went through a naked phase about that age (I think he was 7). But yeah, tell her parents so they're at least aware.
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reader, sexi  +, writes (13 August 2007):
 Hi,its normal for younger girls to have crushes on older guys.Dont give her any attention and she would soon grow out of it.You can ask her parents to have a word with her regarding her behaviuor towards you.Hope this helps.
Take care.
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reader, LauraE  +, writes (13 August 2007):
Hi,
This kind of behaviour isn’t that unusual. But the way the world is now, it is vital that you speak to her parents as soon as possible. Don’t risk someone seeing her doing this and thinking you are at fault. It isn’t a big deal, but they need to explain to her that she shouldn’t be doing this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2007): I agree, talk to the parents.
She's a bit young to reason with about that kind of thing and if she is exposing herself to you then you clearly have a problem on your hands that the parents need to know about in case she starts making any allegations.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (13 August 2007):
 I would approach her parents about this, it's obviously very normal for a girl of that age to have a crush but something needs to be done about her behaviour around you.
With the world the way it is now the last thing you need is for someone to walk in and get the wrong idea about you when it is the little girl with the crush.
Take care.xx.
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reader, skye +, writes (13 August 2007):
 That must be an uncomfortable feeling for you. I am guessing that you like your job and dont want to leave her parents employ, so the best thing for you to do would be point out in a sensitive way to this little girl any inappropriate behaviour.
When she undresses or goes skinny dipping in front of you say something like "nice little girls dont do that sweetie". Remind her that you and her brothers are around and it is not appropriate for her to be nude. Tell her that her parents would be cross if they knew she was openly getting undressed in your pressence. Then ask her to put the proper clothing on. Do this each time and hopefully she will stop.
She might just be at complete ease with her body. Some children are, even at a young age. She might not view her behaviour an inappropriate. However, I believe you are right to be concerned, for little girls can develop crushes.
Speak with her parents if she continues to do this after you have gently persuaded her to stop. Im sure they will be sympathetic to both you and their daughter.
I hope these measures can be of some help to you.
Best wishes,
Skye
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