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writes:Earlier I asked for advice on whether I should see my soul mate after twenty years! I tried to explain why I NEED to do this in detail ...... I have considered all your advice. And thank you so much for taking the trouble to help me! Because I really need advice about this ... I have decided that, if he will see me, I am going to see my soul mate (he lives in another city). I have a family and so does he. I have thought carefully about this (over the last ten years) and I really need to do this! If you want to know in detail why I could direct you to an earlier post .........Please advise me on the best way to do this. Should I send an e-mail when I get to his city or call his private work number? I intend to be as respectful of his life as possible. If I get the opportunity to see him and it is clear that he is "over me" now then I won't even mention my emotional agony (that goes on and on) over the loss of him. I know I could be opening myself to emotional devastation of one kind or another but I MUST do this (I should have done it years ago). Please advise the best way to go about this. If I do feel the same way about him and he me, my goal would be for us to make a life together. Please try not to judge me too badly for intending to do this. I know a lot of peoples' lives may be affected by this and so I would greatly appreciate your advice or thoughts as to the "best" way to go about this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2007): Have you ever thought that if he really was your soul mate you would have found a way to have been together all this time and nothing but nothing would have mattered. People sacrifice all sorts of things for the person that they love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2007): You know what, you will do what you will regardless what people will caution you on.
Being we are separate of the whole affair; we can give a much clearer perspective and will caution you that it does not sound like a very wise course.
If you current marriage is ended, and you seek to move on and find an answer, then seeking after this man is an option.
Honesty is key on this matter.
There is no point in searching out an answer if you have not made a decision that this is the choice you want; time and again the whole having your cake and eating it too has met with sadness, pain, anger, and confusion.
If it is something you intend to do, then I am completely confounded why you have come on here to declare your choice.
Just be prepared to respect his decision; it may not be intune with your desires.
Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have had two years of professional counselling re my current relationship and my feelings toward my soul mate. So as I said I can't stand this anymore. People are saying elsewhere on the site that "if you and your soul mate were meant to be together nothing would keep you apart". I don't know whether my soul mate is happy or not. That is the whole point. I can't destroy what other people have. Around 50% percent of marriages break up don't they? Maybe they got together for entirely the wrong reasons, or maybe they were never meant to be. Ponungalungb you mentioned you were left by someone who returned to their "soul mate" so perhaps you are influenced by how this hurt you. I do however very much appreciate your advice. No one else seems to be responding. So compared to all the behaviour of the other people posting questions on this site I must be an absolute monster. I wrote for advice I didn't write for support for a previously made decision. But reading the advice has made me feel that I should try to see my soul mate. If he is happy and he no longer has feelings for me the only person that will be hurt is myself.
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reader, Ponungalungb  +, writes (18 February 2007):
 Your last letter was apparently just to give you some moral support to justify your intentions of meeting this guy. Since most of the responders told you to forget about him, you obviously didn't need advice, just reinforcement to follow up on your plan.
Just because YOU want something, doesn't mean you destroy what other people already have.
So my "best" advice to you is to seek professional help.
Good luck!
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