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30-35,
*appy_Heart5
writes:Okay, I've been asked on a date by someone i've known for 3 years, but never really have I ever spoken to him.It's been a few years since we last met.Anyway he's been texting me every day since he asked me for my number, and I now regret giving it to him as he's constantly texting me.He has asked to take me to a fancy restaurant and pay for our meal.I've told him today that I'll pay.I've been quite blunt with my texts I've been sending to him.I've let him know today that I'm not ready for a relationship just yet, but I won't let him down and I'll go out for a meal with him.Has this given him the hint?I'm really not attracted to him, but don't want to let him down.Really not looking forward for this meal :(
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (2 January 2012):
 Guess you'll see when you go on that date.
Actually it sends him a mixed messaged...It says, "You're not ready for a relationship at the moment but by going on this date you look interested".
To be honest, you need to be straightforward with him. Tell him you're not interested in being anything more than just friends and cancel the dinner because you don't want to give him false hope.
Look at it this way, he likes you and thinks he has a chance since you agreed to this date. You're going on this date because you feel obligated to. How hurtful is that? I wouldn't want anyone going on a date with me out of pity.
Just be blunt with him, it's not like he's a friend more of an acquaintance.
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reader, Starlights +, writes (1 January 2012):
 He's a guy he's gonna keep trying...
Go out for this meal as you promised and see it as a few hours of leisurely eating out of the house (if his company is not too great).
If he keeps pestering you about wanting a relationship when you've told him NO then shows that he does not respect your feelings and is being pushy:
Therefore he clearly isn't a friend for keeps.
Goodluck!
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