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anonymous
writes:What do you do about an ex that A: won't leave you alone, B: you let him get to you and you actually hang out with him, C: you have a boyfriend, D: you essentially cheated on your boyfriend with your ex and you feel like utter horse-shit because of it? I just want this guy to leave me alone!!! I'll be in the same college with my boyfriend soon (and my ex will only be a senior in high school) and then after that, my ex is going away to college and I'll still be in the same college with my boyfriend.I just want to know how to get rid of him!
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reader, scrazy  +, writes (20 June 2008):
 Sorry to tell you this sweetie; but you're not over your ex.
If you were, you would've been able to put a stop contacting him, you've obviously found a way to still spend time with him. And you cheated on your new boyfriend with him.
Being emotionally weak has nothing to do with it, if you didn't want anything to do with him, you would tell him NO, to leave you alone and your boyfriend would know about this problem.
Be serious, stop dallying between these boys - CUT HIM OFF. He comes by? Don't answer the door. If he tries to contact you through the internet? Delete his messages. He comes by your work? Tell him to leave!
Stop sending him mixed signals, it's only messing with the both of you and your new boyfriend doesn't deserve what you've done to him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe knows I have a boyfriend and yes, I did cheat on him (a few advice givers told me that in a different question I asked), but only once and my conscious is still eating me alive (and I have a grave feeling it will for a looooong time)! It's making me absolutely miserable and I just want to be happy with my new guy and ugh! It's just so frustrating! I mean, I blocked and deleted him off my MySpace, Facebook, and AIM list, and changed my mobile number and email address. I keep telling myself I will not hang out with him, for the life of me, I won't! But somehow, I end up walking about the neighborhood with him and talking about things from the past and it just kills me; I know that my boyfriend would NOT appreciate any of this, but I just don't know what to do. I really want to deny the fact that I'm emotionally weak, but I think I am... This really sucks! And the thing is, I AM over him, but he makes me feel bad about things and god, I don't know. Just please help.
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reader, scrazy +, writes (20 June 2008):
Okay
A: Stop hanging out with him; you're only fanning the flames and making him think that you WANT him around! If you don't, avoid all contact with him! Hopefully, he'll get the hint...and if he doesn't, then just tell it to him straight. "I don't want to see you anymore!"
B: Does he know you have a boyfriend? If he doesn't, you need to inform him, stop giving him hope that you two will get back together
C: How did you "essentially cheat" on your boyfriend? You either cheated or you didn't cheat. There's no midway.
Some more info would be appreciated
xo
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reader, countrygirlWV +, writes (20 June 2008):
 The easiest thing I can say is make it plan and clear that u don't want a thing to do with him. It kinda seems that u gave him mixs signals but flat at tell him or have ur bf do it that usually does the trick for me
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