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36-40,
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writes:I'm 22 and work with a small group of people. one of the guys i work with (P) is 38 and I find him incredibly attractive. We have a lot in common and have a similar sense of humour but we don't socialise outside of work. I think P knows that i fancy him because he flirts with me, calls me "the gorgeous one" and keeps hugging and touching me. He's made prolonged eye contact a few times then looked quite pleased with himself after I look away. He even grew a bit of facial hair shortly after it came up in conversation that I find unshaven men attractive.The thing is, he is older than me and 16 years is a big gap in anyone's book, also he has a long term partner and a step daughter who has a child of her own. I'm not going to make any moves on someone who's in a relationship, but I can't get over this crush and he seems to enjoy the attention.I've been on dates with other men, but none seem to compare to P. I'm not in a position to change jobs and we have to work together a lot. How can I get past this and find someone who's single? I can't get P out of my mind!
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reader, Firefighter's Wife 09  +, writes (10 February 2009):
Hey babe.
Crushes suck don't they?
I'm sorry this one is so hard for you. I personally don't think she matters unless its like a 25 year or higher difference!
My husband is 12 years older than me and we are really good together!
But! Back to you!
Number 1- he is a man!
He will do anything to get attention from a younger beautiful woman! Guys just get off on thinking they are gods! (no offense guys! But sometimes you do!)
Second- you are young! Once again I point out my first point!
Third- workplace flirting is harmless for the most part! It always makes the day go by faster when you are having fun and around nice or sexy people!
He may just be partially bored with his partned and really loves to have fun with you!
Its really difficult to distance yourself from something like that.
I don't think you need to get over your crush! You just need to come to terms with the fact that it is a crush and flirting is ok!
That way, you can still go out and find you a nice good looking, younger guy! Then you can talk about him at work and make your crush jealous! Isn't it fun?
Send yourself some flowers and sign it as someone that you 'met' saying you had fun last night! That will get his pants all in a bunch!
Hope that made you feel a little better! Good luck and just have fun flirting!
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