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writes: Okay...Me and my girlfriend are both sixteen years old and have been going out for 15 months. Recently she told me that she sometimes saw us "more as friends than a couple", which I got really upset about and ended up crying in front of her, cas I got the impression she was trying to end things. She comforted me and told me it was only sometimes that she felt this way and that I shouldn't be so upset.The more I thought about this, the more it upset me and I got myself really confused and told her the next morning that I thought we should split up. This was a really stupid thing to say, and I was really thoughtless and immature saying it because I never actually meant it in the slightest and just wanted to maybe make her realise that she still wanted me.I later explained everything to her and poured my heart out about how sorry I was and how I truly needed her and just overreacted. However, she then told me that she actually didn't know if she could see a future for us anymore and that she needed space and time away from me because things were just getting too much for her and that she's frightened she's involved in something too serious too young. Couldn't she have told me this sooner ? :-(I feel completely heartbroken and I'm just sat wasting my days away constantly thinking about her and what she might be doing. I'm finding it hard to realise what has happened and it just seems so unreal and almost like a bad dream. It was only a few weeks ago when everything seemed perfect and she was telling me she could never leave me and I was to never leave her.I really need advice on what to do because I feel as if I can't cope at the moment. Am I supposed to give her the space she needs and hope that it makes her realise she does want me or should I tell her its over and try and move on? Even if I do give her the space, I find it soo hard not to ring her and try and get in touch because I'm used to spending like every weekend with her and like 2 nights during weekdays, so suddenly theres this massive space and I feel like I've lost her. I feel like a puppy on a lead almost because I'm willing to make things work - I know I'm young, we both are... but I was just so happy with her and content and can't understand where this has come from.The thing is as well, she is also confused and has tried her best to explain to me why she needs the space, but shes not helping because when I saw her on Sunday for a few hours... she was kissing me and cuddling me and acting like nothing had changed... Then suddenly, she wants the space again.Joe x
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2006): Thankyou. Any more advice?
Joe x
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reader, sibaan +, writes (7 June 2006):
 ever heard the saying "if you truly love somepne let them go, and if they come back its meant be" ?
well thats what i did, i was seperated from my boyfriend for almost a year and then he came back and everything is perfect now. you guys are still young and maybe you both need time to grow and find out who ypou are and who you want to be.
give her time she is at a critical age for a girl when there is so much out there and she is just feeling a little uneasy right now.
dont call her or text her, hjust leave her for a while and she will ho[pefully realise that she really does need you and love and that she was just being stupid.
it may take a week or a month or even a year like me but in the end everything works out for the better, i promise.
follow your heart...
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