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writes:I Am A New Mom And Am Having Trouble Seeing Myself As Anything But A Mother. It's Been 2yrs Since My Baby's Father And I Have Had Sex And It's Hurting Our Relationship. I Don't Know What To Do. How Do I Get My Sex Drive Back?
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reader, Laurel Barnet +, writes (12 October 2007):
You would be suprised if you knew how many women struggle with a loss of sex drive after becoming a mom. There are many reasons why this happens. Four of the most common causes of decreased libido are fatigue, stress, loss of emotional intimacy and relationship problems. The first two automatically come with having a child.
One thing you can do is to make it a priority to spend time together. Set aside at least 5 minutes of couples time every day just catching up with each other. Also, plan a regular date night. Remember that you were a couple before you were parents.
Another thing is to schedule a sex date. On that night, fix an easy dinner or get take-out. Eat on paper plates so you have easy clean up. Once your child goes to sleep do not get involved in cleaning house or other projects. Take some time to unwind so that you can change roles from mom to lover. Scheduled sex may not sound romantic, but if you are waiting for the perfect mood to strike you may be waiting for a long time. Sometimes you just get out of the habit of having sex. Once you get started you may remember what was fun about sex.
You can check out other ideas at http://www.SexTipsForMoms.com. Good luck.
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reader, CynthiaRenae +, writes (1 October 2007):
I would go see your doctor and see if you need to be on hormones or something to that effect. It's normal to not want to have sex after having a baby but you need to remember that you are also a girlfriend. If you want your baby's father in your life or any man later on I would get checked out. Maybe even a counselor could help. Something to get over that "I'm a mother" wall and have a sex life again. Good Luck!
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