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anonymous
writes:My gf and I have been together almost 4 years we broke up and now have been back together for about a month now. But I have this deep gut feeling that she talks to other guys and holds things from me. I hardly know about her friends thats he talks too and on our cell bill (since I pay it) it says she receives all these picture messages from like 8 random numbers. And it says she sent picture messages out too. When we talk it is bland and not in depth just regular stuff, not interesting. She told me that she wants more deep convos which I would love myself and always wanted but then when we do talk shes always doing something while we are talking like watching tv, typing to her friends on AIM or facebook and what not which killsthe convo. Then when I tell her she gets upset as if i'm attacking her. How do I find out what is really going on with my gf so that we could not only connect better, but let some things come out to light? How do I do this without making her feel attacked? I always attempt to talk about this but she gets upset that we always have to talk about it. But the point never gets through, so how can I come off clearly so that we don't have to go through this anymore? I feel like there is something she is not mentioning or holding stuff back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2010): It sounds like your gf is just not that into you....if it has been 4 years and things are still the same, maybe she is just with you for the sake of being with you. She is "safe" with you, but has not real connection.
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