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writes:I am married to a wonderful man. We are both in our forties. our problem is I want sex more than him. He has a physical job and is tired when he comes home. If he is ever horney he can take care of himself. If I am not up to it. But I cant take care of myself. I can but I'd rather have him. He says its not me than what is it. We have no small children and right now I am on the computer and he is watching t.v.. How do I get him to want sex more. He is a guy you'd think it would be the other way around. Go figure. Any ladies have this problem? what can I do about it? Reply to this Question
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (13 January 2012):
 Yeah talk to him. He may need just something simple to get really ignited back into a better sex routine. Nice evening out or even a brief weekend getaway if possible. That'll do wonders. In fact, I dated a very conservative woman once and took her to Chicago for a weekend to help our relationship in general, and our sex life took off and I didnt even expect it too. Also, stress may be contributing to it. When men are stressed we think about beating the p^^ out of dinosaurs and wanting to conquer earth with a fist and a bat. we dont think about sex usually... its not our outlet of dealing with stress. Perhaps a solution to that could be exercise? or even a simmple dietary supplement like tribulus could do the trick for him to help increase his libido. I'd suggest more, but if he's not lifting weights he should stay away from doing more. I never experienced a high sex drive when I was on one recently... i wanted my drive to go away. Wonder what it would have been like with a lady around. anyway, definitely talk to him, communicate, and start there. good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2012): "How do I get him to want sex more. He is a guy you'd think it would be the other way around. Go figure."
As a guy I can give you the answer to your seeming confusion via an old saying: 'The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak.' As he gets older getting through the day at a physical job takes more out of him. He's probably still just as horny as ever, just knows he's not always 'up' to the task.
"But I cant take care of myself. I can but I'd rather have him."
Another old saying comes to mind: "The lord helps those who help themselves."
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2012): The first thing to do. TALK to your husband about what "it" is.
Let him know you want to be closer to him and you need some guidance how to make that happen.
Once you know what the real problem is, then you can find some real solutions. Good Luck with your chat.
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