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writes:hi,i have a girl that i have propose to.and we love each other very much.but my challeges are getting money to conclude our wedding plans.though a graduate but still looking for a job.want you to advice me on how to go about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2008): Have a very small wedding. Invite the parents, siblings, and one best friend each. We did it, it worked beautifully (against my wife's tradition). We had some disgruntled distant relatives, but even they recognized that they were not singled out and that we treated everyone equally. Two years later, we had a nice down payment for our home. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2008): ask yourself this question first.
Do you want to have a fancy expensive wedding or a simple wedding?
And if you want a cheaper simple wedding, does your wife want the expensive wedding?
If so, you should not let your wife dictate the whole thing, you should find something that you are comfortable with financially. Remember the money that you ultimately waste in the wedding, yes i said waste, you could instead have used to buy a new house or maybe a car. So think it through, and don't overdue it just to make your wife happy.
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (4 June 2008):
 There are many ways you can cut costs, hire suits, share church flowers with another person getting married, ask family and friends to help with the cost of the buffet or make it for you as a wedding present etc. I didnt want to spend thousands on my second wedding and we did it all very economically but everything was fantastic as we sourced the best quality for what we wanted to pay, nobody guessed it cost less than £2000 for the whole thing yet you read in the papers it costs something like £20,000 on average.
As for the job you have to just send in as many resumes/CV's or whatever you call them where you are, as you can. It may be a good idea to wait until you have a job though as being broke is not the best start to a marriage. If you wait you can have the day you want and not look back in the future and wish it had been different. x
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reader, Justmealone  +, writes (4 June 2008):
What makes a wedding. It's not all the money and glamour, even though most want that and think it's about that. No, it's about commitment.
Here are a few ideas, as I've helped plan a few cheap weddings, but made beautiful by the actual ceremony and the people there.
Do an outside wedding, like a park, someone's back yard, under a shade tree. Make it a casual affair and use wild flowers tied with a ribbon.You could also ask each guest that attends to bring the bride a flower of their choice, to make the bouque, that she will carry. You don't have to have a wedding gown, or a tux. Buy a simple white dress and dress it up with ribbon, or pearls (fake). Put babies breath in her hair and she's ready to go ! You... get dress pants and a nice white shirt with a tie, or even go without a tie.
If you do want bows, flowers etc... buy artificial !They are much cheaper and you can find so many different kinds and they don't die, so you could buy them ahead of time. As far as bows for the seats? Buy a spool of white ribbon and loosely make huge bows and tie together with another ribbon.
One wedding I did only cost them $1500 and that included limo(which was from a friend of my moms). I buy dicounted dresses for the bride, ring bearer, since it was her daughter, and for the flower girl. I used lite candles and large white bows inside, instead of flowers and it was a candle lite wedding. Everyone was amazed at how elegant it looked !
Ask family/friends if anyone can take good pictures and have them do that and ask that others share pictures that they take with you and there'll be a few good shots from each person to keep.
OR you could just have a preacher over to preform the marriage and then put all the money into having a part afterwards with family and friends.
You just make a budget, or buy some each week. But really a wedding is a wedding about commitment, not the glamour.
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reader, hannah76 +, writes (4 June 2008):
 Hello,
Sometimes in life, we can't do certain things due to not having enough money. It's not an excuse, it's reality. Think about putting things on hold a bit if you can't raise the amount needed. It may be better to wait to have a great wedding opposed to a small wedding. Be realistic and accept your situation at the moment. H xx
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