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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have been with my boyfriend 3 months and i have not got any confidence around him what so ever, I really want 2 make the effort. How could i turn him on so he want to come onto me? Also have you any ideas that will help gain my confidence?Please help me. X
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (22 November 2009):
Oh you are younger than I thought, if you are too scared to talk to him then you are in no way ready to try and turn him on... you could very easily but you don't want to just yet as you need to get the relationship a bit better first.
If he didn't want to touch you then he wouldn't have asked you out. I'm sure he's just scared because you don't talk to him.
Just try and ask him things if it's quiet. Find out what kind of music he likes, what he likes doing, what's his favourite colour, what he wants to do in life, what kind of dog is best.... any thing you like really. Just ask questions, then tell him what you think too.
Get to know him and get it so things are more relaxed, all the other stuff will happen once you can be happy together.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI am to scared to go up to him and just hug him, I feel like he doesn't want me there or to toutch him :(. When i am with him i never know what to say :'(. I really need help. X
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (22 November 2009):
It's not about turning him on.
He probably wants you LOADS, but imagine if you were with a girl who seemed terrified of you. You wouldn't come on to them because you'd be scared that they would hate it.
I think you need to take a deep breath, look in the mirror and point out all your good points to yourself. He is your boyfriend because he likes you and thinks you are beautiful.
Accept that and be a bit more confident about yourself and then he'll probably be less scared to kiss you and hug you and everything else.
The way you look at a man often tells them more than anything. Just stand close to him next time you are on a date and face him and look up at him with your big gorgeous eyes and say you are really happy to be with him.
If nothing happens then just give him a hug. Let him know you do want to be with him.
Good Luck!! xx
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