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writes:How do I find out if he has true feelings for me?..I mean more than just friends. He does things that surprise me..calls me on his lunch break every so often, text, after work late night calls just to talk..nothing sexual. He doesn't mention other girls, and I don't ask either. He does know a little about my ex, and he was there to put a smile on my face..someone to talk to when I decided to call it quits. And we go out, laugh a lot..but in the end no moves on his part, so I just stand back as well. One thing I won't do is ask him, because he's a great friend and I don't want to ruin a good friendship if he says 'no' It would just be awkward for both of us.
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reader, Susan Walsh +, writes (5 January 2009):
First, I think it sounds like he does have an interest in you - he is clearly working to be in touch. I can also understand why you wouldn't want to ask him straight out and risk the rejection. I would suggest sending out some subtle signals, and see how he responds. Touch him a bit more, that kind of thing. Here is a good post about turning friendships into something more that I first saw on CollegeCandy.com:http://www.hookingupsmart.com/2008/12/24/whatguyswant/can-guys-and-girls-be-friends/
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reader, jeet  +, writes (5 January 2009):
Ok lets take it this way..
what if HE LOVES YOU...
and if he proposes you..what wud be your answer,
i may not have the answer to your query but i might just help you find a solution.
If your answer is a yes, then who cares who proposes first.
So why not volunteer.
Second case, just incase if you propose and he turns you down then, no harm buddy. It surely wont affect your relationship, i can vouch for it. yes might just put you 2 in a bit of awkward position for a while, howver ovr a few days things wud normalise.
but look at the return that you will be gettng for a little bit of risk on your part.
However, from watever you have written bout him i can say for sure that he cares bout you and in more cases than less that the first step towrds love. When do you care for someone. i am pretty sure he wont be calling up all his good friends during his lunch.
take your call girl,
i wud nt want you to miss someone so special just for a trivial worry.
trust me things wud be great.
you will not loose him.
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