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writes:Am a 24 yr old male. Am very talented in academics and I have been very successful in my career and I feel am gifted with high intelligence. I always top in everything I take up. I have been working real hard in my career and also trying to prove myself to the world. But this isn't the problem. Am good looking, gentle and people say I look smart. But I am 5'5", am from India and this is below avg height. I am very social but any comments or jokes over my height hurts me very badly. It depresses me very badly. I tend to ignore or move away from such people even if they were my good friends.So as time passed, I really don't feel like sticking with any friends and kind of become a loner. But still a lot of people like me, but I never get attached. I also have the complexity and don't feel like talking or interacting with girls. Am still a Virgin and I feel I should live a moral and meaningful life. I don't want to have sex with anyone other than my future wife and I would like to love her more than my life. I see girls as goddesses and someone to be taken care of, protected, respected and loved. But why are the girls so corrupt. Why even in India girls are like this? Isn't it shame?But same way I also very strongly feel that my future wife should truly love me and should be a virgin. I am very possessive. But am afraid I will never find such a person. And I definitely feel I will break down if I find out that my wife isnt a virgin.These thoughts haunt me, makes me worry and troubles my day to day life.Some of the people whom I know talk about having intercourse with several girls and telling me that I will never find such a girl in today's world. All these depresses me very much. Now and then I start to think like why should I be like this and suffer. I dont deserve this. Shouldn't I be living a happy life for living such a life? What is wrong? Am finding it very hard and unreasonable to keep up my moral values and aims and aspirations in this corrupt world. Will this attitude spoil me in future?This has started to affect my performance and career and normal life. What am I trying to prove myself in this meaningless world. Please help me. Is my life meaningless?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2011): Guess i am one of those typical non virgin's.... however i can say I do not feel uncomfortable...oh and regards distracting from the question, you 'male anon' never even answered any of my question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2011): Once you say you want a virgin bride, that distracts most people away from anything else you talk about in the question. The typical non-virgin feels uncomfortable because your values exclude them, so they will try to talk you out of it. It's not for your benefit, it's for theirs. Even if they never meet you in person they don't like being reminded that people with your uncompromising values still exist.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2011): Hi
Your life is full of meaning, even if you don't see or understand it....every one's life is full of meaning.
You sound quite unhappy and vunerable in a world you feel could eat you alive,fear. Yes there are many corrupt minds in this world but the world's nature is still underneath as is your nature. I respect your thoughts and culture about wanting a virgin bride and you may well find one, but if you do not can you not find the nature of the girl and nature of her love underneath the physical? Is love and purity only found through the physical virgin? and what about after the virginity has gone... in a moment... is this virginity GOAL enough to sustain a lifetime of love? I would question this....looking for purity through another's virginity!!!!!
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reader, Jovan  +, writes (10 March 2011):
 Well, your friends did tell you the exact situation in today's society, but you definitely sound like you have some strict religious vows, which is kind of a drawback. Don't get me wrong but i really think it is. I totally understand your words, more like i am almost in the same shoe but in this situation the only problem actually is you.
Do NOT expect that your future wife is going to be a virgin, because it is almost impossible in our society (there is nothing wrong with girls having sex once in a while). I am expecting you to realize what i`m saying (you said it yourself that you were a smart guy), so i`m really hoping you are going to understand what i meant by saying this.
Once you realize that, you will prolly find the meaning of your life.
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