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female
age
30-35,
*ensitiveAtHeart
writes: I'm not exactly living with my "parents" but I'm considering moving in with a couple of friends, and I'm in dying need of some good advice. Don't get me wrong ..I love and highly respect the relatives I am living with now, because they took me in when no one else would and have made sacrifices with their family so that I would have a place to live. It just seems no matter what, I tend to do wrong in their eyes. I feel as if they don't want me there anymore. I don't have very much longer until I do turn 18, which isn't an excuse to move out because I still have my whole senior year to finish out, but I just don't feel welcome at their house like I use to. I don't see why I have to be miserable if I don't have to be. It's not like I'd drop out of school or not go to college, because that's not the case at all. I have every intention of following through with my future plans. I'm just at this point where I have no idea what I want and I don't know what to do. Reply to this Question
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reader, Susan Strict  +, writes (20 June 2008):
 Why don't you work out exactly what you intend to do - get all the advantages and disadvantages clear in your head, then put yourself in the position of your relatives and think what their objections might be.
Have the argument, if that's what it might be, in your head before you have it for real!
Once you have that clear too, and you have worked out reasonable answers for their objections, then discuss it with them.
Decisions like this are quite a major step in your life. If you can try to look at it objectively and from different viewpoints rather than just your own, you will find it easier to make the right decision and to justify that decision to others.
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