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writes:My best friend suffers from cancer and she's recovering but she has always ben vey unpunctual and I never complain yesterday she was 30 min late and did not even bring the mobile with her so that I could contact her, I went back home and she started ringing but I did not answered as it was very cold and I was tired and she was with another girl too so I dediced to go to sleep as I was suffering from premenstrual syndrome and did not want to quarrel, she did this to me another time when she dated this same girl I went with a friend to her house to help her prepare a party and she was not there she was having a drink with the other girl from yesterday too who has gone through liver trasplant I do not want to be mean but it's getting over me, she phoned me to see if I could collect them both as they couldn't find a taxi but I refused and said I couldn't go as I was already in her mother's house how should I handle with this so that she doesn not feel hurt?? I want to be nice but do ont want her to be this messy I know she is not mean but it is getting me tiredany tips??? thanks a lot
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reader, Astrid +, writes (6 February 2007):
Astrid is verified as being by the original poster of the question yeah thanks it helps a lot I'll try to be late to or just meet her ony when I have more friends around so that I do not have to be alone so long in the street or a bar, though not I'm not jealous I'm happy she has more friends to hang around but I sometimes feel she`s careless about our friendship taking it for grnated or something I prepared stuff for her party so that her mum did not need help as my friend doesn't cook a lot and even though I went an hour later to help preparing the party she was not there but shopping with this other girl I know illnesses are more important and they want just to enjoy just in case but the rest of the world that are there for them all the time trying to be nice also exist and have feelings, maybe I'm jelalous but what I feel is that people is too selfish sometime maybe we are ill too and we so not know or we will crash and die or something, your advice was really heplful darling thoug I feel a bit tempted to complain to her
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reader, CarrieMagdelene  +, writes (6 February 2007):
 It does sound to me that you're a little jealous, but I shouldn't really accuse, lol. It's important to remember that your friend is perhaps tired due to her bout of cancer. Also, perhaps she's interesting in seeing other people. It's probably a great comfort for her to chill out with someone who has gone through such a sickness and has the same experience. As for being late, I'm not clear. Some people just don't have a lease on time, you could say. That kind of runs in my family. I don't think I have the problem, but my biological father and brother have it. Actually, people used to tell my parents 'the party's at nine', when it really started at ten...So my parents would arrive on time, at ten!! It was always one more click through the channels before my father left...Sad, but true.
This might be your friend's problem. Just confront her (DUN DUN DUNNNNNN, thunder cracks and sheepies bleat at the horrid mention of confronting someone), and see if she's interested in this new girl because of thier sicknesses. And maybe tell her you want to go to the mall at eleven, so you'll get there at like noon, haha. Hope this helps! -Carrie
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