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writes:can someone please help me. im having a little issue with my bf. hes recently became friends with another girl, and i wasnt bothered until, i undoubtably noticed them flirting. iv never herd of her before, but since shes been around weve had problems, its almost like hes lost interest. im putting so much effort and time in to this, but for , say, the past week, its been so difficult. he says hes happy with me, and isnt going anywhere, but now its come to light that this girl has a crush on someone, and because they talk so much, i think its my bf shes taken this liking to. im more devastated than angry, because im putting in all time and it looks like she could be stealing it. im not usually the jelous type, but it is getting me down because i dont want to lose him to new comer flirt who cant find her own man!we have alot of feelings for eachother and care alot about eachother, i wouldnt say were in love just yet, but were getting there. what do i do, sit back and wait? confront him? confront her? i really dont know, because i think hes gunna see me as acting childish and jelous regardless of anything i do, when all i want to do is sort it out maturely, but yet, i still want to bring the potential homewreaking cow down a peg, but i know i cant do that, so what do u guys think?????
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell we have split up now, i confronted him, he couldnt belive i thought what was going on was wrong. just goes to show, he had something to hide. he didnt fight for me, or try win my trust back. so hes out the door people.
I came to realise that yes he was treating me like shit, and i wasnt taking it no more, especially since weve been together such a short time. he is a loser.
imagine the future with THAT! no thank you!
thanks for the advice, i took it, and as far as im concerned it was good advice, i confronted him, and he made me realise what a jock off he really is.
time to move on and find someone worthy of my commitment.
thanks alot guys xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2009): Sit and talk with your boyfriend before its too late. Its better to tell your boyfriend how you feel about him and that new girl....coz keeping things to yourself is not a good idea. Also talk to that girl and tell her you don't appreciate her flirting with your boyfriend....and tell her straight to be in limits. God bless you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2009): You appear to be in the same situation as me, however I am the man.( the situation fits exactly - but I'm in a long term relationship.)I'll tell you my stance and hope it helps. I do fancy the new girl and she flirts, and I flirt HOWEVER I tell my Partner I love her, and am not going anywhere (which she believes, rightly so). I mean it too. While I flirt I would never hurt my partner and am indeed not going anywhere.Now the tricky bit. I have been off and distant from my partner, partly because of the other girl, as I do have some feelings, however most of it is coincidence. I'm so stressed out, busy and confused with everything in my life right now that it is taking it's toll on all of my closest relationship. I don't feel I can talk to anyone (including her) as most of my problems involve people I could usually talk to or people who would talk about my issues to people I don't want to know about my problems...if you follow.As for advice, Talk to him and try to get him to tell you if anything else is wrong. Come out and out and ask him if he's bored with you if you feel it necessary.Hope I've helped.
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