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writes:Well, there is this guy I really like (and have for quite a long time) and turns out, he likes me back. But thing is, we're already living in different cities (he's studying at university in the capital, and I'm still at school), and as I'm graduating this year, I'm going to move to Scotland. Therefore we have only 4,5 months to be together and he says he doesn't want it because this way we both will get hurt in the end. In my opinion, while it's not plenty of time, together might be by far the best way to spend it. How do I convince him about that without sounding needy, desperate, etc.?
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (24 April 2012):
 I agree with SVC. You can't convince him, you can only wear him down which is not a good idea. You wouldn't appreciate someone doing it to you.
As stated, your boyfriend knows his own limits and he has made a very practical decision. He's already disengaging from you in anticipation of your move.
Being grateful for the good times you had together might be the best way for you to accept his decision and move on with your life.
Best of luck.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (23 April 2012):
 You can't convince him.... sadly some people know their limitations and he may not want to get into a relationship that is as self limiting as the one you propose...
I know that given the option to have a local partner vs a long distance relationship, I'm going local.
I just did a year LDR and even though we saw each other every weekend once we got serious, (which i doubt is something you two will be able to do) it was still so very hard till we were together full time...
I think he's being prudent to be honest.
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