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writes:Hi,I am 60 years old and my partner whom lives with me is a very beautiful woman whom I love so very much who just turned 68.Although I reassure her each and every day how beautiful she is and how much I love her, she has an extremely low self-esteem. She doesn't like aging and she's always putting herself down referring to her 'saggy arms', wrinkles in her face, her legs, etc. Nothing I have done or said seems to help. We have been together for almost 5 years now and even though I love her 'more today than yesterday', as the song goes I don't see her any less attractive since the first day we fell in love.When we first got together, she was extremely loving and passionate and were very active sexually, but now since she doesn't feel 'beautiful or sexy' anymore, she has very little interest in sex. What can I do to convince her that she is still my beautiful woman no matter what.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you sugarplum786, but I have always made her feel loved wanted,and have never taken her for granted and will continue to do so. It's just that since she doesn't 'feel that way about herself' that she is no longer interested. She can feel better when shes' "all dressed and covered up" as she says, but she refers to herself as 'disgusting' when she takes off her clothes.
Even though she admits that she loves me, she has indicated that I'd be better off without her, and that it's not fair to me. I know she doesn't really mean that, so she's trying to be a martyr. She goes through these periods for days or even weeks on end. I am always trying to be the optimist and remain positive , but it's going to get to the point of giving up. It's a constant cycle.
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (4 September 2014):
 You are so sweet , show her this message you wrote and I am sure she will appreciate that you care about what she is going through. Take her on dates and make her feel young again. DO some crazy stuff that she will realise that you and your feelings have not changed.
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