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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi, i have been talking to this girl online for 2 weeks.We have become really close, and have many mutual friends.The conversations have been very deep and the messages are nearing nearly 5000 this week. So we have spoken a fair bit. Alot of webcams etc too.Problem is, she always puts herself down and also for past few days will not believe that i genuinly like her.She gets really mad! She will reply with 2 words answers.At one point i got fedup and told her, im not going to speak to her because she doesnt like me and im wasting my time. So she said she did, i turned around the conversation thinking 'she does like me', but than back to her being annoyed at how she doesnt believe that i like her.?How am i supposed to sweep her off her feet through texts? Essentially she wants to believe me before she even starts meeting me.Although her answers are sooo poor, and i give proper responses, i sometimes just stop replying. She will than try get my attention again by text, and resume her bad mood which shows me she wants me to prove her wrong.How do i do that!?? I know if she was in front of me it would take me 5 seconds. Any ideas girls/ladies? I do like her and i know she likes me because we had a good stage until she decided to make me prove to her that i do like her and in return treat me like dirt till i do.(she doesnt see anything wrong but i feel like im doing all the running)Thank you for reading.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2012): Thankyou for your answer. Yes she sounds very insecure about herself. I think if i suggest to meet up, that will not work as she is currently still arguing with me about how she is not good enough for me. Many hurdles to jump before she can even talk about that.I do get tempted to throw it all away and tell her to forget about it but I think to myself; "only last few barriers left".How long could this last?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (21 July 2012):
 It sounds to me like she is very insecure and unsure about herself. Sometimes it is hard to accept someone likes you because it is over a computer and she may feel that if she does meet up with you she will get hurt in case you change your mind. She is playing these games to see how far you will go to make her realise that you like her. Which is totally unfair on you off course.
Speaking on the internet is really different compared to face to face conversation, therefore I think you just need to be straight with her. Am sure you do not want to be strung along either. So just mail her and tell her that you do like her and you feel like you are making all the effort. Explain to her there is nothing more you can do over the internet to make her realise you like her so if she does not accept it then there is nothing you can do. Offer to make arrangement to meet up with her so you can prove yourself and see how it goes from there.
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