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writes:Hi there,I am 23 years old and in a loving relationship...or so i thought. I have just come back from a week away at work and logged onto my computer at home to check my emails. I have found out that my boyfriend has been looking at escorts on the internet and also searching for one of my very pretty friends on google. I find this very upsetting and dont know whether to confront him or not. It doesnt appear he has signed up for anything, just browsed. But the thing that hurts me most is searching for my friend on google. Why would he do this? We have been together 2 years...Any advice...?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2008): What an awful situation you're in, I can't imagine how you must feel.
I would definitely confront him, by not confronting him you are ensuring that this thought will always be at the back of your mind driving a wedge between you two (assuming that there is anything left to salvage.)
It is also allowing him to be completely disrespectful without any consequences. Honestly, googling your friend? What sort of information was he hoping to find and why. That sounds like a slight obsession.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (8 February 2008):
 I agree with the other aunts who said you need to ask him why he googled your friend. There could be a very logical reason (Is your birthday coming up?) or he's going to turn red in the face. Either way I think you need to know what's going on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2008): Errr... he chooses a week when you're away?! That tells you everything. Lets face it he was hardly going to do those things with you there. I'm amused he doesn't know how to clear down the internet history file but anyway his loss and sadly your gain (in terms of the truth). I would invite your pretty friend over for a cup of tea and ensure your boyfriend is about (don't tell him you're doing it). See the reaction. When she is gone confront him and ask him whether it was better in the flesh or does he prefer women on the internet. You are going to have real problems trusting this guy now aren't you so I don't see what you've got to lose... apart from an emotional cheat.
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reader, love-him +, writes (8 February 2008):
 Hey babe, just slightly say, i was checking my emails and saw (your friends name) was being searched in google.. and wondered why, and also ask does he think the idea of escorts is good.. let him have a chance of explanation.. and let him have his say, theres always a chance it could be a reasonable explanation. Good Luck babe! mail me if u want 2 talk xx
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reader, Mystical +, writes (8 February 2008):
Hi, I think you will have to confront your boyfriend of 2years, because otherwise you will always have worrying thoughts in the background of your relationship; saying is he interested in other women etc. And at the end of the day, do you think you could live with the knowledge that he's been searching for your friend, and escorts on the internet?
I also feel if you dont ask him why he was searching for your friend on google, then it could potentially cause problems for you and your friend.
I know it will be hard asking him, but its better to know then be forever wondering!!
I hope this helps...if u need anymore help, dont hesitate to get in contact!!
Take care :) xox xox xox
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2008): Hi Hunny,
Talk with him, curiosity killed the cat eh! I no how hurt you must feel expecially about your friend love, So you have to speak with him and get this out the way as your mind will work over time and it will make things seem 100 times worse and it will hurt more, Sort it out then you can heal, I do hope everything is ok hunny message me if you want a chit chat WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (8 February 2008):
 You can just ignore it and see no evil. If it troubles you too much then listen from the lion's mouth .You might want to know why he was doing that.Listen to his version before you formed an opinion of him.
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