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writes: I want to ask my mom about birthcontrol.... I don't know how and it's hard for me to talk to her about this subject. I'm 15 going on 16 and I'm in love with a 16 year old and we have been talking about sex lately and I really want to but I don't want to be stupid and do it about protection...Do you know any ways I could bring it up in a casual convo???please help me !! (thanks in advance)*~VG~* Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2008): hey girl, im 15 going on 16 too and i have the exact same problem. i didnt know how to bring it up, so i told my mom i needed to see an obgyn because "my periods were too heavy, often, and lasted too long", which is true but that was only half of it. when i got to the doctor i told her everything, about my periods, and how i wanted to become sexually active. ive always been a little scared to use condoms alone because I DO NOT WANT TO GET PREGNANT! but the doctor told me about a couple of pills or ways that can help me and prescribed me the pill. i know this is not the best way, but i am NOT ready to tell my mom because she would NOT understand.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you both very much. You have helped me alot... I think I'm going to wait to have sex for now... I may still ask my mom about the protection so IF I ever do decide to go all the way I'll be covered. I know there are risks . And I think I'm going to wait to see how far the realtionship goes . thanks again!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2008): Well, I commend you for wanting to ask your mom about birth control, it shows that you have some maturity about you and that you have a good relationship with your mother.
There isn't any best way to bring it up, but just ask her if you could spend some time with her alone, and simply tell her that you want to have sex with your boyfriend, and that you want to be safe about it and want to know about birth control. You should be examined by a doctor and put on the birth control pill as this is the safest method to avoid pregnancy, and use condoms to protect yourself from std's.
Here is the thing that concerns me. The fact that you are only 15 and you want to have sex. There are some real emotional issues here that you have no idea about, sex brings up all sorts of emotions and bonding experiences with your partner....my concern is that you are so young and he is so young and it is very unlikely that he is going to be the man or the boy you think he is....at this age guys don't make very good boyfreinds and sex just complicates everything...he may not treat you well after the deed and you may end up very hurt by him.
More concerning is the fact that having sex at such a young biological age puts you at a greater risk of contracting the HPV virus that leads to cervical cancer....I know personally a couple of women who have cancer because they had sex at an early age....it is your age that puts you at risk and the poor hygene so typical of younger boys. Condoms do not protect against this virus and having had only one sexual encounter or one sex partner does not protect you against it either. There is a new vacine out for HPV, but the jury is still out on it's effectiveness over the long term.
My wish is for you to wait, and perhaps your mom's wish will be the same....just remember you have a lot of years ahead of you to grow up and to have sex, enjoy the freedoms that come with being a young girl and do not give your gift away just because you feel like it, do it because you are mature enough to handle the consequences and mature enough to make the right decisions....not sure being 15 makes you the best judge of that, so definately talk it over with a trusted adult, like your MOM, she knows you best....Take care, and just start talking, she will be very proud of you that you did.
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