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writes:its my 18th birthday soon and i'm going out drinking with my friends. only thing is, i dont want to get drunk. i just want to have a good time. has anyone got any tips on how to avoid the peer pressure?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2007): Basically wen u get bought a drink (that u dont want) , drink a bit, wen no ones looking go for a little walk and jus leave it somewhere in the bar/club. (sometimes leaving it in the toilets is a good idea)
Also dont mix your drinks
Avoid strong drinks (eg.double vodka coke) eg. just get single vodka coke.
A pint of beer takes longer to drink than say 2 shots (both contain same units of alcohol roughly) so go for the drinks that last longer.
Avoid having drinks at home (before going out), as your mates may be insistant that u start drinking while gettin ready/ waiting for taxi...make an excuse say ur "saving urself for the BIG night ahead"
Most probably people will buy u drinks, which will probably be plenty to get u through the night, so dont be over-keen and buy loads of drinks urself.
HAVE FUN!! HOPE THESE TIPS HELPED A BIT!
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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (18 December 2007):
 Yeah, alternate between drinking alcohol and non-alcoholic beverages. It's simple, order one drink with alcohol. The next drink, act like you're going off to talk to someone, or going to the bathroom, slip up to the bar, order something 'non' and have them put it in the same glass (instead of Rum and Coke, just Coke) or instead of beer, try an O'Doule's just put it in the same mug and no one will be the wiser. This will reduce your alcohol consumption because you'll be spacing your drinks out and be sure you eat something before you meet up with your friends so the first drink doesn't hit you too hard, and since your friends will be getting drunk, they're less likely to catch on to what you're doing. If they order you a drink, just sip it s-l-o-w-l-y or give it back to the waitress after they've gotten sloshed and aren't paying attention. Just laugh, make jokes and be fun. They won't have a clue. I've done it many times.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2007): yeah you dont need to get drunk to have fun! i think its the stereotypical thing you do on your 18th - cos its legal so why not. but stand your guard and do what YOU want - after all its YOUR birthday! I say do it the once, and next time dont drink too much, then next time you wont have an excuse for it wont be your birthday!
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reader, Yos  +, writes (18 December 2007):
 Thats an interesting question. The fact that you're thinking about peer pressure and the situation you're going to be in shows that you are being responsible and self-aware. Thats a good thing.
Two things for you to think about:
1. Peer pressure is in many ways a bad, it can cause you to do terrible things that you can really regret. It's one of the worst traits of humanity in a way. But at the same time, being part of a group can be good also. Something about it is essential to us and important. There's nothing wrong with being part of a group and 'joining in' as long as you manage to keep your wits about you. Always have a part of you that questions what you are doing, and makes sure your behaviour is respectful and ok. If you have that in the back of your head, and are not scared to challenge a stupid 'group' decision, then you're more than safe to go out an have fun as a group. Make sure that you and your friend behaviour is appropriate, and don't be afraid to step out and push your friends back in line if they're being idiots. Doing that earns you respect and builds courage and conviction.
2. Getting drunk on your 18th birthday isn't so bad. Getting drunk on a regular basis is stupid and asking for trouble. Especially when you get so drunk you lose control and don't know what you're doing. But every now and again its ok. And your 18th birthday is a pretty good excuse. As i said above, if you can go out and get drunk with your friends, but at the same time keep a part of yourself that makes sure you behave respectfully and with an independent mind, then you'll be fine.
Honestly, just by asking the question here that you have, I reckon you'll do fine going out on getting drunk on your birthaday. It's the guys that would never think to ask that question that you have to watch out for. Go out and have fun, but at the same time keep a part of your head screwed on right and keep an eye on yourself and the behaviour of your friends. Keep yourself in line, and them too if you need to. That is part of what being a grow man is about.
Best wishes and happy birthday.
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