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writes:Oh how to go about this. I would describe myself as a pleasant, polite person. I avoid confrontation with people and only speak my mind to those whom I know would understand the point I am trying to make, such as friends. I am rarely rude to anyone, and if I am, I regret it immediately. I rarely say boo to a goose. But lately people have been thinking because I am this way, they can say what they want and they think it won't affect me.Well lately, my boss has been patronising me. She treats me like a child and I would say I am a very mature person. I am never big headed and even saying good things about myself is hard for me. So when I say, I am one of the more experienced member of her staff, eager to learn and progressing with my NVQ when others are not so eager I think she should value me more than she does. But she doesn't. There was a situation only last week and she sent a very patronising text message, saying she knew I was professional always, but then proceeding to treat me like an utter simpleton.When I am around her I am very respectful, unless I truly have a problem regarding my work, I try and figure it out before I even involve her and my manager. I am well liked by other staff, they even appreciate my input when they ask for it, I never give it if it isn't asked for.So it starts to grate when she treats me like I am stupid, and speaks to me in the same way as she texts me.I understand why she is not giving me any kind of promotion, because I know full well I am not yet in the position to be any higher than a minion.Now I am sorry I have rambled on, but this woman gives me a low sense of self. It is beginning to get me down. I just want to be able to say to her "Listen, I am not stupid so please don't treat me like I am.' But being the soft arse I am I daren't say a dicky bird. But it is getting far too much now. Now even my Manager directly above me is beginning to give me the same treatment. How can I defend myself, without actually causing offense and getting the sack?It may seem like a trivial problem to some but for me, it really needs to be sorted out. Hope you can help.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (11 February 2013):
 You need to be very careful in selecting the battles that you will fight, in the business environment. I didn't "see" such a battle in your submittal......
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