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writes:This is going to sound bizzare but I honestly don't know how?Okay so I met someone online and spoke and chatted almost everyday. Then I just left it and went on with my real life family and friends ect.So fast forward a few years and I met this person in person and they approached me knowing exactly who I was and started speaking about things that confirmed that. I'm baffled, yes there are photos of me on my profile's but tbh I have gained about 3 stone and obv don't look how did when I had online contact with them. I have also changed my hair various times and obv a few years have passed. who doesn't these days.So how did this person know me when they had never seen me offline?I know this bizzare but I'm a little freaked by it if am honest. Reply to this Question
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reader, Myau  +, writes (17 June 2024):
 You probably dont look all that different.
Ask family or friends if you look different to what you did back then.
If your worried hes stalking you. Make efforts to not be around where he is and you will know if he shows up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2024): Do you know where to find this person? Maybe you could simply ask. There may be some simple explanation. Maybe they know someone you know. Could be they just have a good memory.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2024): Be. Very. Careful. I'msure I don't need to tell you this.
First of all, from what you say it sounds as if you left your online conversation abruptly and went on with your life.
What did you actually learn about him? Would you have been able to recognize him? Would you have even wanted to?
Nowadays, people are far too comfortable with talking to strangers online. They forget that they are just that - strangers.
The benefit of getting to know someone "the old way" is that you don't have just their side of the story. You don't take their for whatever they tell you. You see them in action. You see what they actually do and how the treat others. You hear what others have to say about them.
It's hard getting to really know someone that way, because we all want to present ourselves in the best possible light., let alone online.
The bottom line is, you have either sent him some photos of yours, or he had been obsessively looking you up, which is even worse, or both; you yourself weren't sufficiently interested in any photos he may have sent you and hadn't tried to keep tabs on him; his interest in you is far greater. Where and how did you met him? Could he have somehow known in advance that you would be there? People advertise their whereabouts online all the time.
Just be careful and keep your distance. Has he tried to contact you since? Tell somebody you trust about this. I don't mean to panic you or anything but check how and where you could report someone stalking you if need be. We are far too comfortable with strangers and we never believe that something (bad) can happen until it does.
And btw, you cannot believe how many traces we leave online, even if we don't want to. In my former job I used to check exactly that for our clients and the things I have found...
Be smart and take care fo yourself.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (16 June 2024):
 Do any of your family and/or friends have newer pics of you online (even if you don't) it's not hard to find someone's profile and then look through their friends-list and photos.
Or he/she could have stalked you. In person. If he/she knew where you worked or places that you were at after work, maybe you mentioned going to a bar, restaurant, club, museum or whatever - and you mentioned the time you were there, if it was easy for him to get there, HE/SHE could have "spied" on you.
Seems like he/she kept tabs on you, to be honest.
OR.... you still pretty much look like you did back then, even if you gained a little.
Where did you run into this person? did it make sense that it was totally coincidentally? Or not?
I'd be a bit freaked out too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2024): They must've been taking quite an interest in your offline life to know so much about you when you have no offline friendship groups.
It could amount to stalking!
I can see why this is uncomfortable for you because some people share things with people they never expect to meet in real life.
Perhaps you need to check with family and friends if you've given away too many details online about your private life.
There is always your personal safety to think off but also scammers want as much information as possible about you if they wish to scam others using your name or details.
Exactly how much do you know about this other person? Where they work? Who there family is? Where they live. If they know all this about you and you know nothing about them it might be time to do some online research about them!
It seems you ghosted them, but they have relentlessly pursued you..or accidentally just happened to look up your profile every day.
If you are in the public eye this is not at all uncommon.
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