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writes:My exfiance basically asked me to marry her and move into her home. Suddenly, she kicked me out stating her kids werent ready and she wasnt either. Can you explain how she can go from loving enough for marrige to no feelings at all? I cant stop loving her that way. Reply to this Question
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reader, [email address blocked] +, writes (11 May 2007):
[email address blocked] is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI want to thank the person (sleepy Hollow) for answering my question. I am grateful you took the time. Her first marrige badly with stalking and terror. Perhaps its still with her and she is afraid now. I cant just stop my feelings like water from a faucet, but she has been through a lot. I will leave her alone as you said. There is another person that wants to go out even though I stood her up because I am not really ready. I will be freinds only with her. Thanks again, I needed help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2007): Perhaps she felt she needed a man then found she did not. Having yuo there may have upset her children and she had to chose between you. I would leave her alone to decide what she wants, it is not nice but perhaps she was a little unstable from her first marriage break-up. What she says is probably true so take it as so. Whether or not she cares about you still is unclear, but she should at least have said a very big sorry. You could ask her whether she would like to be girlfriend and boyfriend still and keep it light. It may be that she will not have a relationship until her kids are grown up. If you have the opportunity you could discuss whether there is way forward. If she is not sorry for the way she has treated you don't bother though, don't try to rescue anything if it makes you unhappy. Make sure she does not see you as a lap-dog.
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