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writes:It's been 4 months since we broke up. How can someone stop loving another person and simply move on in life?[Moderator's note. Your question lacks details but I will approve it for the sake of... philosophy, the reasons and changes of breaking up etc. Please provide more details]
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2007): You might never stop loving him but you can move on little by little incorporating new things to your life. This 'system' may sound shallow and simplistic (No philosophy here) but if it has worked for me it has value. Here it goes.
At simple as it may sound whatever you can change in your life that is the same now as it was when he was in your life CHANGE IT!. That goes for your bedroom layout, the way you park your car, your perfume, your brand of soap, the route you take to get to your house, the place you sit on church, your beauty salon, etc.
Your mind/brain literally needs to make new neuron connections so you'd start evaluating your life different and therefore feeling different, and eventually not focusing that much on the repeated pattern of neediness and picturing him as an answer.
It may sound weird but I've been doing it for like four motnhs now and it has been great. I started with my bedroom. Then I called old friends that were not there when he was with me and I started remembering about the old times and the way I was before I met him. Which was good because I started missing those happy days and not him for a change.
I changed my 'signature color' from pink to green. I hardly ever used that color when I was with him; most of my wardrobe was honoring the pink color, now you can't hardly find it.
Get the idea? Believe it or not it works. It's like playing tricks on your mind so it would focus on new thigns and try to leave the past behind.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2007): Heya, im assuming youre still in love and cant shake off the feelings and memories?Firstly, have you attempted to let this person know how you feel? give he/she a call and explain your feelings, life is short so grasp every moment.Secondly, if you cannot for some reason get back together with this person, then you have to let go, they say when you love someone/something so much, you should let them fly, if they fly back to you then they are yours for keeps!Its hard to shake off memories and feelings, most of all its hard to get rid of his/her image from your mind, and your prob goin out of your mind day in and day out, wondering what he/she is thinking, do they think the same?, have the moved on?Focus on yourself, create new memories which will make the past ones seem like a mere blur, enjoy good food and good music, take up a hobbie, have a make over, change your career, make something big happen for you. most of all, remember that people come and go for a reason, he/she may have had a strong impact, and playd a part in your life story, but its time to move on to the next chapter, and make it exciting!good luck and god bless x
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