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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:basically me and my close female friend get on great but recently i realised that i was in love with her and so i told her but got the lets just be friends for now speech. its been about a month now but i'm finding it really hard to find out to talk about with her and so we keep getting silences and when we do talk its always just bickering...this has been happening alot lately but shes become alot more touchy feely with me as in she would now constantly bickers with me over anything i say either to her or anybody else and actually grabs or punches me.when shes around em shes really quiet and so i feel like i have to always make conversation and its so hard cos she never continues the conversation or laugh when i say something funny but when shes with other people she looks more lively as in she laughs at thier jokes and seems to want to talk, it looks like they have more in common. my friends keep asking me why she's always around me and i actually don''t know......we talk for hours on msn but when we see eachother its just soo awkward. she hasn't really got many friends and shes not one of those popular girls but i'm really finding it hard to be her friend cos of the way she acts towards me...if i ask her she will reply with i'm just tired so thats out of the question what should i do? i do care about her but shes just so passive.
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reader, Entirely Unique +, writes (20 March 2010):
 I would try the asking her and trying to talk to her and not take the 'I'm just tired' answer as the end of it.
You need to find out whats going on with these mood changes and change in her way towards you at the drop of a hat because its not fair on you.
If shes not prepared to discuss it and sort it out properly then I would distance yourself from her until she is because as you said, you're finding it hard to be her friend so you need to sort the problem or walk away at least until shes prepared to sort it out and find out what the real problem is and find a way to deal with that.
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