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writes:How can I turn this back into a "chase"?Lately my boyfriend has gotten a little bit too into the routine of things. He's a party animal, he loves to go out and socialize with other people, he's not a big fan of 1-on-1 time, however he doesn't get the chance to go out a lot. Our schedules are very very busy and when we do have time to ourselves I like to spend it with him, but I think I'm coming off as "clingy" (though we've been together for 2 years). He says the "chase" isn't there anymore since I'm always around, but we live together and there isn't very many places I can go in my down-time since I only get off work at midnight. How do I fix this? Reply to this Question
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reader, Arim  +, writes (20 January 2011):
I would advise you to find your own hobby as well. Something small that you enjoy and need to spend time on it. Like photography or drawing or or or, anything you could do no matter if it is midday or midnight. Living with somebody else is very nice, a relationship is very nice indeed but it consists two people, two personalities so we definitely need our distinguishing features. A hobby would be nice i think.. I am in the same situation almost. When my boyfriend is off with his mates somewhere i find it difficult to do something on my own or with my friends. But not impossible. There should be something you love to do on your own
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (20 January 2011):
 Well its quite hard to fix putting the chase back in to the relationship if you are both living together. The chase is at the start of the relationship but you two have been going out now for 2 years and are living together therefore he needs to accept that there will no longer be a chase that you both have each other and mission is complete. You cant create a chase when the both of you are living together.
If you are being a bit clingy to him then back of a little bit. Maybe try and arange some nights out with friends even if its to a friends house. Try and get out more and give him a chance to miss you.
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