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writes: hii have a problem with my bf. When we have a fight he treats me like shit and i hate it. i love him so much. how can he be attracted again to me and make him to be romantic as before plz help mee Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2006): You need to figure out what causes the fights and contention between the two of you. More often than not it is when someone stops thinking of the WE and goes back to thinking about the ME.
Granted that you have needs and they need to be met; but there are more effective ways of communicating your needs, you both just need to figure out the HOW.
So...couples counselling and you have homework.
Time to head to your Local Chapters or book outlet and head to the communication and relationship section. Do some research.
Also, I am going to recommend a book I adore and I think EVERYONE should read for the sake of gaining insight, wisdom, understanding.
Many would be surprised that being raised in a home with two parents that were physcially present but emotionally and mentally absent...is a abuse and neglect and therefore will have many acting out their childhood in hopes to acheive a different outcome where PARENT dummies up and you all live happily ever after.
Most don't know that PARTNER is now in role of PARENT and is expected to make the wrongs of the past right. Even the person who loves their PARTNER is unsuspecting that they are re-playing out their childhood.
The Emotionally Abusive Relationship, How to Stop Being Abused and How to Stop Abusing by Beverly Engel is such a good book to own in your library.
Being Emotionally Abused and Abusive is a fast growing epidemic in our Society and is often underlooked as a factor in the breakdown of many relationships.
This book has good questionaires, good identifyers, and a good step by step on how to spot, and treat emotional abuse.
I think some of the woes comes from within you Sweetheart and you need to figure out why.
You can do this and things can become what you want and desire but you have to do more than your part to get there.
Have patience and Faith and do all you can.
Best of Wishes Sweetie and Happy Holidays; My Hopes are with you.
*hugs*
http://www.beverlyengel.com/books/emotionally.abuse.rel.htm
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