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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Thanks for everyone that has answered here on the past. Me and my bf used to have a strong love connection at first and we are in a LDR, it was until this Feb / March that everything changed, he used to have a crush on this girl before we started dating, but I never cared cuz we were together. He always said they didint even talk so I never paid attention to it. Around June I received messages in Facebook from that girl telling me how they had gone out together to some concerts , she pasted the msn convos between them to "prove it" I thought it was bullshit so I deleted them. When I asked my bf about it he got defensive and denied it, immediately started deleting his messages from his phone. Which of course made me think ...wtf? I don't think they have anything, but he lied to me about going to those concerts with a family member and I do believe they went together. I asked his family member and he denied going to that concert with him. On the convos she sent me he is telling her they should meet up to eat, and that he wanted to take her to some pizza place (where he took me) and that girl is asking him out at times as well, On Easter she told him that after he was done with his family that they should go and get a drink. Why is this girl sending me those convos? She types that she sent them so "i didnt get the wrong idea" but seeing my bf tell her that they should go eat or telling her how much fun they were going to have together did hurt me. I did not reply to her, because I dislike drama and deleted the messages, so I have nothing to show my boyfriend when I confront him, and when I try to bring up the subject he denies it and gets defensive. To this I'll add that she is pretty, sings in a band, and is from the same country as him. I asked him if he thought that if we when out to eat or to events with opposite sex friends if that was okay, so he immediately replied yes!...when I asked him if he minded me doing the same. He changed his mind and said that wasnt okay.Since I been with him , I lost weight I have flat abs now (yaay!), I'm going to the gym, I'm wearing mini skirts, and I'm trying to be better everyday!!! Still this makes me insecure, also he fact that every time I ask him something he goes berserk deletes everything and acts defensive, makes me think he lies and did go out with her to those concerts. He is an amazing guy and treats me well. Besides those things...and the fact we are long distance. I haven't found anything else that tells me he may have something with that girl or other, but I've read him once call another girl the most beautiful and talk to her kinda flirty while we were together...Soooo yeah I can't really trust him :( I dont think he is cheating, but it does make me uncomfortable how he accepts that other girls advances, and how he lies to me to hide anything with her... :( why not tell me truth? If he told me he would be going with her I would be chill... how can I stop feeling so bad? :( can I trust him again?But really I cant really trust him much, I find myself doubting everything he says, and when I confront him about a lie he says "oh I forgot about that!" or "I didn't tell you because it wasn't important" Sigh... what should I do? Confronting him is kinda out of the question because he never admits to ANYTHING :( I end up suffering, I tried asking nicely, mean, calmed, nothing works! :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2011): You can't trust him again; he's already proven himself untrustworthy-repeatedly.
This guy is too immature to be in a serious relationship. Let the other girl worry about him-you have other things in your life to do and look forward to.
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reader, margaret z  +, writes (12 August 2011):
you should start opening your eyes and judge your situation more wisely! your boyfriend is definitely lying to you and that girl sending you all those texts are a clear sign that sth is not right! hr did lie to you and he did admit previously that he likes her a lot! you don't live in the same country and you need to be careful otherwise you'll end up with a broken heart.
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