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writes:Okay, here's the deal. I am from the middle east and have been dating a guy from hispanic descent. We want to get married; however, my dad is very strict. How can I tell my dad I'm engaged to my fiancee without giving him a heart attck?! Please help!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOkay, I'm adding a bit more here that may help people with my crazy situation. My boyfriend and I have totally different religions. What is wierd though is his entire family loves me, and they except me. My entire family knows that I have been with this guy for a long time, except my mom and dad. Mom I can crack as time goes by, but dad is insane. To top things off, my dad hates jobs that have an insicure future, and my boyfriend soon to be husband is a marine!! So basically, at this point every force is against me. Thanx for givin me all the advice people. I really appreciact it. However, still need more so keep helpin.
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (16 March 2007):
 Hi Anom,
First, Congratulation on getting engaged!
Since you are considering marriage i'm afraid you just have to tell him. Look for a way to warm him up to it. Also, u can try getting some family members(mum, brother, sisters..) behind you by breaking it to them first and convincing them he is right for you, so that when u tell you dad they can stand with you on your decision.
Marriage is all about u cos u are the one at the end of the day who would stay with your partner in the same house.It is wise to be with someone who makes u happy and when your dad realises that this guy makes u happy and u really want to be with him, he will have to accept.no parents will want to spoil their children happiness.So even if you still dont get his approval in the beginning just be patient with him, i'm sure in no time he will have to accept your decision.
Take and Goodluck
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2007): You could ask him how. You could say that one day of course you hope to be married and you would like him to say what he would expect from you and how he would expect you to behave as that time approaches. As your discussion unfolds ask him how he would like you to address it with him if you should meet someone that you personally like.If he is strict I would not mention that you are engaged, in fact I would leave of being engaged for a while except in your heart. It sounds like he will want to know your boyfriend and be asked for permission. He will probably want to know about his parents and job/prospects. Is there a clash in terms of religion or any other problem you could foresee?
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