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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Okay I have known this friend of my male cousin (who is very protective of me and everyone knows this) for about three years, he's not a player and has had a serious relationship since I met him. Recently I have started to become attracted to him and around Christmas time read some signals and thought he was too! He stared at me a lot and even let me win the ugly Xmas jumper competition he was judging! At new year we shared a smooch and as soon as I got home he messaged me asking to meet up the next day. The next day he text to say he was getting grief of his ex and didn't want me to be involved in that! 4 months later I ran into him again and was rather drunk, I thought he was ignoring me but then I received he text, after a few flirty text messages and him promising that he wasn't messing about I went over, he even had a word with my cousin! He told me last time I caught him at a bad time but this time was a good time. One thing led to another and I went back to his, he was really sweet and made sure I was comfy by fetching a blanket and turning the heating up when I said I was cold. Then has things started to become intense he said and there was me thinking you was an angel ... ( this freaked me out because I really am) afterwards we had a little cuddle and fell asleep in each others arms. In the morning I woke up and felt really awkward (I'm not the kind of girl who goes back to guys house after the first date let alone without a date at all) and got nervous when he said morning and I didnt hear him he said it again and I panicked by responding I'm grumpy in the morning, after a really awkward morning where he attempted to make conversation, I made my excuses to leave at about 10, I knew he was also busy and we had another hug before I left. About an hour later I text me saying he ‘felt shocking!’ with a hangover and ‘hope that you didn't feel awkward about last night.x’. I panicked again and replied with I've felt better. I really did only mean the hangover but didn't know how to respond to my awkwardness. Eventually after feeling really horrible I explained my text and and said I didn't feel too awkward and asked him if he did. He replied saying he didnt but had been quizzed by my aunty (who's a regular at his local) and wasn't pleased about it (can't say I'm not fuming about this too). Since then he hasn't text back and when I went to the pub a few days later and ran into him he ignored me but I ignored him too. Then when I saw him the next time he had to serve us he was really nervous (he’s not usually a nervous sort of guy) and couldn’t work the till and dropped our money all over the floor, when my friend went to the bar on her own he was extra nice to her. Thing Is I actually really like this guy but can't help thinking he just wanted a one night thing and I have panicked since. I know I must of really hurt is ego, but do you think there is any way I can rescue this or do you think he was really just after I one night thing? Oh and by the way when I ran into him at the pub the first time I got a little bit drunk and text him after he left saying ‘I really wanted to say hello but I was scared’ to which he didn't reply. I've got to go to his local in a couple of day with a friend, where I know I will see him. Don't know what to do.Sorry for the essay but needed to give all the info not just a snippet. x
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (22 April 2013):
 You really like him, that's the key. The thing is if he was really interested in pursuing anything with you, you would know by now.
there is really NOTHING to rescue here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2013): hey hun,
If he'd wanted more, he'd have been in touch.
You've text him a few times so the ball's now in his court.
It'll be embarrassing for both of you if you keep trying to initiate anything more than friends.
Be civil with him and focus on yourself. Hang out with family/ mates and be happy independent. You'll care less where he stands and you'll be even more attractive to him and other guys with your confidence :-)
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