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*omethingannonymous
writes:i've become stricken with this girl at work, and am in dire need of help. unfortunately, striking up a conversation with her couldn't be more awkward. aside from the usual things such as the mild embarassment and finding stuff to talk about (which isn't usually a problem -- and i've been slowly overcoming in this instance), there's the added impracticalities that come with the job. for instance, she's sat in a cubicle with 4 other people, facing a wall, and is always wearing headphones (required for the job). to go up to her and start a conversation, i'd have to get her to turn around, take off her headphones... etc etc, by which time, i'd also have the attention of the other three people in the cubicle. she's always with a group of people too - either when sat working, or when she's having her lunch. so anything i'd say to her i'd have to say to all her friends too! i've sought her out a couple of times - passing in the corridor, in the tea room, that sort of thing - and by the end of last week we'd started buidling up a bit of conversation. but a three-day weekend has passed, and i seem to be back to square one. add to this the fact that i work shifts, and she works regular office hours, and you may begin to see my problem.does anyone have any advice for me? i've tried the divide and conquer technique - get her on her own and talk to her then (she seems less shy about talking to me when she's on her own) - but there only seems to be so many times i can do that. should i just plain ask her to come out with me? i'm all too aware of the extra awkwardness added by this being a workplace situation...oh - and she's amazingly beautiful and has the softest-looking hair and sparkly eyes and and and and and...
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2008): Yes just ask her out, you already shown your intrest by talking to her several times so it wouldn't be out of thr blue and freak her out. Have your number ready and give it too her
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reader, Sparkly82 +, writes (22 September 2008):
Why not send her an email at work? Ask her to meet with you one lunchtime for a chat. That way you don't have to ask her out in front of colleagues and you can have a good chat with her and take it from there.
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