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writes:Im 19, in university and having a hard time in life.Been with my boyfriend for 7 months, he's 20 and hard work on times. Hes gorgeous, caring, treats me like a princess. Only problem is he's like a girl, and if we have a bicker or an arguement he keeps it going for hours.I hate arguing so whenever we have an arguement i try to get my point across, let him get his point across and then kiss and make up. He doesnt. He wont change his view and see for a second where im coming from, leaving me frustrated. I always end up apologising even if its not my fault. So today i was asking about what my boyfriend wanted to do in the future, i was interested and curious.He started saying he was going to get a full time job in the local shop, but in septemeber he wants to go to college to become a fireman. I said wouldnt you go part time then. so you can fit college in. He got all moody and said i dont want to speak about it, i said to him that i was his girlfriend and that he should be able to speak to me about anything. I care about him and want the best for him, and im interested in his interests and his life. This then turned into an arguement carried on for an hour. I said sorry, and he carried on being funny with me, no apology from him. 3 hours later and ive apologised 3 times, asked if we can forget about it, tried to change the subject, told him i loved him endless amounts of time and he's still being moody/funny with me, sending me one word answers, barely talking.He was ment to come up mine an hour and a half ago and has told me he's busy doing "stuff" and will be up soon.I want to know how i should act? or how you would act? im sick a tired of his shitty moods and having to apologise even when its not my fault. Thanks in advance. xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2010): Hello,
If its not your fault then DON'T apologize. If he continues bickering tell him we've discussed this already and let it go. If he wants to keep going perhaps take a breather go outside let him have some alone time.
He sounds slightly immature and has a hard time letting go after everythings said and done. When he replies one, or two word responses. Maybe tell him you love him and you'll speak to him when he's in a better mood.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2010): Well. for one thing I know how you feel. Im 16 and I have a boyfriend who is 20 years old. As much as I love him, he gets me SOOO mad. And when we get into an arguiments/fights, I end up apologizing for something I didnt do, and sometimes, apologize for something that was not even related to me. I know excatly how you feel.
I try to just keep my distance with him for few hours. He doesnt txt me or reply, netheir do I. Bc by apologizing I learned that, your givin in, and thats excatly what he is waiting for. He is waiting for you to come to him, bc his acting that way, he knows that you love him, and that would do anything to make him feel all better again.
Now I just wait, untill he comes comes to me. It can take hours, days, weeks, but now he apologizes. (Somtimes, but its getting there)
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