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writes:I am terrible at making decisions and always have been. I sit around and wait for the perfect answer to come out of the mist and, if it doesn't, I do nothing. It is because of this that I am too eager to listen to other people's views on things and always do what they say I should because I'm so indecisive.I have been trying to decide whether to split up with my boyfriend, for example and it seems like whatever I do, everyone says I should have done the opposite! I'll be talking about finishing him and my mum will say "are you sure, I think you're blowing this out of proportion, make sure you don't lose him if it's not what you want, he's a great guy etc". I bottle and stay with him in the end and she says "you're still upset though, can you go on like this, are you sure he's what you need!" I know it's pathetic that I can't make a decision, how can I stop being so influenced by what other people say and just be confident enough to make a decision myself? I can't spend my life not doing anything until I have someone else's support. How can I stop being like this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2006): Hi Anon, I wouldent worry too much we all feel this way somtimes I think you should now allow yourself and trust yourself to know that you will be right somtimes, and you will be wrong but this is how we all learn lessons in life
But the real key is knowing you will still be safe and loved no matter what happens, you only need your own acceptance really this is a hard concept to grasp somtimes I know especially when we feel down but life keeps movin on' somtimes we need somone to lean on, But also we need to listen to our inner selfs which can be the most wisest part of us
your Mum sounds very caring and nice and like she wants to protect you from pain, Listen to her and somtimes take her advice but somtimes thank her and reasure her "YOU" Know whats right for you and if it is a mistake say you'll be greatful for her help then,
You confidants does sound like it needs a boost try Yoga or some other feel- Good activity that will give you the boost you need to become your own best friend again Take care Ditzy Blonde xx
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