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writes:I was in a relationship with a guy for 2 years, during this time he disrespected me, tried to hook up with other girls and just acted as if he didnt care about me, only when I wanted to leave did he break down and cried, so I foolishly stayed. January 09 I told him he had to leave and sort his life out because he couldnt keep a job, have no priorities in life and I wanted him to prove he could one day provide for a family with me. During this break he started sleeping with a younger girl..I asked him if he were seeing anyone and he said no...I find out 4 months later that he actually was...now shes pregnant. I washed my hands clean of him that day...but over the months he wormed his way back in, desperately claiming he had changed. Fast forward to now, the child was born and is 3 wks old. He is there for the baby, but says he doesnt want her he wants to make us work. Sad thing is a part of me feels he is sincere in his apology...but what Im having trouble with is walking away from him now as I feel he is finally the guy I waited around so long for..but its too late, he messed up majorly and a innocent child was created. What can I do to help me stay strong and be adamant in my decision of walking away? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2010): QuirkLady - wow... Your words opened my eyes to a way I never thought of before. To not worry about the future and just take day by day and just for that day to commit myself to staying away. My problem is I've looked to far into the future and worry about what will happen instead of living today. Thank you for your advice, it truly is appreciated and I will take it on board.
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reader, QuirkLady  +, writes (12 February 2010):
 Take it day by day. You know that you can't trust his words, since he lied to you so easily before. So each day, just for that day, you commit to staying away. Don't worry about the future, just concentrate on yourself and being strong today. Over time you will get stronger and stronger and things will get easier for you.
Good luck.
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