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writes:I been seeing this guy while going thru separation . He and I worked together for 3 months or so. He used to be in to me until we started sleeping together then he slowedly distancing and emailing and texting me every 3 or 4 days. Then he always finds reasons to not see me . I know he works nights and suppose to have to 2 jobs and sees his daughter every other day. We had our biggest arguement about a month ago. I was over it. So I started healing. Then he calls me one night . He used the book.he had that I lent him which I have provided him an option in mailing , instead said he wanted to see me and talk . So we did and he said he really cares for me . On christmas day , I called to wish him a Merry Christmas and he said I love you babe and Merry Christmas. Then New Years Day I get a plain feeling. I HAVE told him to let me know if he wants me to leave him alone and if he is seeing others I will be more than happy for him. I just need him to be honest. HIS answer is that I over analyze things and that he has asked me to not do this. When all I am asking for is that should I or not continue ? .Anyways , I know I am worth it. I KNOW i AM better deserving . He also gives me empty promises and says . Our relationship will improve as soon as he gets his own place since he lives with his parents right now and when I finally move out and live separately from the same location as my husband and soon to be ex.Pls help..How can I slowly heal from this and let him go and move on. What should I do when he reels me in ? .Thank you, Jinky
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (4 January 2016):
 If I am being honest with you it sounds to me like he is using you to make himself feel better. I think he looked at the both of you as a casual hook up, and over the holidays he has contacted you again more than likely because he was feeling lonely.
I am glad that you know you deserve better, that makes it so much easier for you to move on with your life without him in it. He sounds to me like he wants to play the field and you are looking for someone who will give you that companionship you deserve.
Next time he tries to contact you to meet him, say no, just tell him you are not interested in all this messing around. If he genuinely did want to be with you, then he would at this stage fight for you.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (4 January 2016):
 Listen to Honeypie....
Good luck....
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (4 January 2016):
 Unless you HAVE to communicate for work, why not simply block him.
Living with his parents might dampen the romance of make it a bit harder, but I think... him being FRESH out of a marriage that he LEGALLY hasn't even left is the REAL clincher here. And SO are you!
He is still married, YOU are still. He USED you, you USED him. For some attention, affection and sex. But I don't think he is ready for what YOU want, which is a replacement of your spouse.
You should BOTH consider healing from these broken marriage before throwing yourselves into new relationships or all that broken baggage follows.
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