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How can I slow things down a bit with her?

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Question - (12 March 2009) 3 Answers - (Newest, 19 March 2009)
A male United States age 26-29, anonymous writes:

She's too fast for me. Hi I'm 15 and am in a relationship with an amazing girl that I love. She loves me too, she's very caring and kind. We've been going out for 3 months but she's got a really high sex drive, I don't think I'm really ready for all that yet.

She's really touchy feely and it really turns me on so I kinda lay off a little so she doesn't get too carried away... but when we make out I get horny when she sees it she gets even more turned on.

I don't know what to do. I don't want to loose her and I don't know how to slow things down a little. I think one of these days I'll just give in.

Help????

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2009):

well I can help with this. she might be trying to just fill ur needs so let her kno sex isn't a huge factor to you, let her kno your goal is to be in a strong relationship with her not putting your head in her hole. no matter what she will like that.

when you feel comfortable start teasing eachother rather than doing it. like let her stroke you and you rub/finger her. just go at a easy pace and don't do anything you think is too fast. my g/f and I are very sexually aroused when we are near eachother but thanks to us just teasing around we are still virgins and going strong after a year of dating.

satisfy eachother needs without going too far and maybe phone sex can help. basically masterbation while listening to her pleasure. if she still pushes it too far and you feel there is no choice tell her you need a break cuz if she cares, she can have some form of self control.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2009):

You can slow things down by not going into your basement where things can happen, try to take her out where touching too much isn't ok to do and it cant get carried away.

Still, make sure you are keeping her needs in mind, especially if she is satisfying you then you should do so for her. You're still young and she is probably just figuring out how to manage all the hormones in her body.

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A female reader, jessica04 United States +, writes (12 March 2009):

jessica04 agony auntYou need to sit her down and tell her you want to take things slow, and that contrary to popular belief, not ALL guys are turned on by sex driven girls.

She could be responding to what she thinks you want. She might think you're playing hard to get, or she might be afraid that if she doesn't have sex with you soon, you'll lose interest. It happens a lot to girls at this age.

Talk to her very openly about how uncomfortable it makes you, and give her a chance to reign herself in. If she doesn't respect where you're coming from, then it might be time to move on and find a "nice girl".

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