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writes:Dear Cupid,My husband I have been married for 10 years and have two children. My husband asked me to leave 4 months ago because he said that he didn't feel like I loved him anymore or respected him as a husband. I love him very much and I want him back in our lives. I know that Im a person who expects everything to be perfect and Im trying to stop that. I don't know what Im suppose to do to show him that I love him with all of my heart. And that I am willing to do anything to change. Please help.... Lost without him Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2008): Dear Poster
This might be very difficult, but it is always worth a try.
I suggest you personally start with counseling;secondly, arrange a meeting with your husband and talk to him; explain to him how you feel and how much you still love him; apologize to him for any hurt that you might have caused him in the past; be honest to him, admit that you realize that you have made mistakes and that you are working on some of your problems; it will be good if at that point you can tell him that you are going to seek counseling; you might want to ask him to join you if he feels up to it; but don't push or nag him.
You must understand that RESPECT is very important and he might want to see that you are making certain changes regarding respecting him and his wishes before he might consider your request; therefor be very calm and loving but don't nag or blame or say negative stuff; If need be allow him time to consider your request and maybe during that time invite him to have meals with you and the kids; try and make it pleasant for him; pay attention to him and if possible start flirting with him again.
If he is not immediately excited or positive about your request please give him time to think about it and to see that you are serious about make changes; proof yourself to him over a period of time; Unfortunately this might take time, but if that is what you want, try your best to save your marriage.
I do hope you will manage to sort this out, but if not, at least you will know that you have done everything possible to try and save your marriage and also in the process, you would have done a lot to improve yourself and be more wise in future.
I wish you everything of the best and sincerely hope you can be strong and patient to work through this.
Please keep us updated and remember we are here for you.
Best wishes and try to keep SMILING.
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